Meet Asian Women Online
There are innumerable Asian ladies who are beautiful, talented, and really want to marry a Western man. Asia is a huge area that covers nearly 30% of the he world's total land mass. There are literally tens of millions of single women in this vast area who would prefer to marry a Western man, but not just any Western man.
An Asian woman can be a source of extreme joy and happiness in your life. They can be loyal and faithful spouses for a lifetime, and bring greater levels of joy and fulfillment to your life on a day to day basis. Girls in China, Vietnam, and the rest of Asia grow up in a culture that still places an enormous amount of importance on being a good wife.
Of course, life is complicated and things do not always work out, but the overwhelming majority of Asian women really want to be a great wife in a way that is a little unusual in the West today. For a lot of men from the United States or Europe that is extremely attractive, but there are things that a man needs to consider.
Marriage minded women from China, Vietnam, Thailand, or the Philippines do not just want ANY Western man. They want a special Western man who understands their individual needs. If you want to be that special man for a beautiful Asian lady read closely and pay attention.
Asian Geography and Culture
At one time these ladies would have been impossible for men from most Western countries to ever meet because of the vast distances which made travel and communication difficult. Further, there were heavy cultural restrictions designed to control the choices beautiful young women had for their mate.
The Boeing 707 overcame the travel problems by allowing passenger airlines to introduce reliable jet service in 1958. The creation of the internet in the 1980s overcame the communication challenges.
But the most critical step was the development of the modern mail order bride industry in the 1990s which helped Asian brides challenge the patriarchal societal norms that forced these women to decide on a mate from a very small pool of men. In many cases, in traditional society the entire marriage pool for a woman was one single man – the man her parents or sometimes village elders or even her father’s creditors selected for her.
The tradition of arranged marriage is still strong across much of Asia. It is hard to get good statistics about just what percentage of women are forced into arranged marriages across Asia, but the number is significant. And even where the practice has largely died out the basic contours of the practice continue to have an important influence.
In an arranged marriage a woman has to marry someone that she is not in love with for the good of her family. In an arranged marriage a young woman usually focuses on marriage as a duty to her family and community and hopes to eventually grow to love her husband.
This tradition has made it much easier for Asian women to enthusiastically jump into international dating and today there are tens of thousands of beautiful Thai girls, sexy Chinese women, sweet Filipinas, and many other single Asian women signed up at international dating agencies.
They often WANT to be mail order brides in a way that even ladies from the most remote corner of Russia or Romania would balk at, because of the cultural residue of arranged marriage that makes the practice less jarring than for many Eastern European or Latin women.
With those odds just about any half way decent guy should be able to find a beautiful Asian bride.
But Asia is a huge area with vast disparities in wealth and education levels even within the same country. So, one of the main things to remember is to investigate the individual country and where the lady you are interested in is from.
The biggest difference among Asian women probably is where they actually grew up. If she is a city girl, regardless of her nation, she is much more likely to have been influenced by Western media and culture, but if she is a country girl she is likely to be much more a product of traditional Asian culture.
You just need to be aware of this urban – rural breakdown. It really matters, but you should remember that the modern Asian woman, even one from a small village, is different from the mythic Asian bride of old.
The Modern Asian Bride
The modern Asian bride is not just simply a submissive, silent angel like Cico-Cico San from Puccini’s Madame Butterfly. These women have grown up online, informed, and are very modern girls in many respects, and, really, it is worth remembering that Cico-Cico San was a very strong individual in her own way too.
For those of you who are not opera fans check out a little opera. You can see Cico-Cico San’s passion and individuality in this clip:
The soprano is a hottie!
Traditionally, Asian wives might not have challenged their husband directly, but they often had a lot of subtle power. But it is important to remember that although most Asian mail order brides will seem extremely conservative to their Western husbands that these women are really trailblazers because they are not allowing nearly as much influence from their family as previous generations.
Why Do So Many Asian Women Sign Up For International Dating Sites?
Lots of guys wonder why so many Asian ladies decide to become mail order brides. They often suspect that the ladies are simply scammers. That is totally unfair.
There are a lot of reasons why beautiful, talented women from across Asia sign up with international dating agencies. Their reasons are almost universally sweet, kind, and completely logical.
1. A Better Life
Poverty is of course part of the equation. Asia has witnessed an incredible economic expansion in the years since 1970, but income distribution remains incredibly unequal. So, many beautiful Asian girls are living in abject poverty, but really most of those women are not online. They are still too poor to get online.
Most of the Chinese, Thai, and Vietnamese ladies you meet online come from relatively middle-class families. Many of them are college students. Some are very successful, particularly among the Chinese women, because the Chinese economy has opened many opportunities for smart, driven ladies, but societal expectation have not kept pace with economic growth.
2. Societal Stigmas
Chinese women are basically considered old maids at twenty-one and hopeless old maids at twenty-five.
For Chinese women who have become doctors, lawyers, and engineers this is a romantic and professional disaster. These women have a stark choice: marry any man that will have them, possibly ruining their careers or go unmarried.
There is even a name for these women: Sheng Nu
3. The Reputation of Western Men
One of the main reasons that so many single Asian women sign up for international dating sites is that Western men have a great reputation with many beautiful, talented, sweet young women in Thailand, Vietnam, and the Philippines.
Nearly, all of these ladies have heard from stories about women from their area who are happily married to a man from the United States or the European Union or perhaps Australia or New Zealand.
Today many of these women are actually are in touch with their relatives or friends who are already living in the United States or other Western nations.
They know that Western men tend to treat their women differently than most traditional Asian men. To some extent these ladies, like women across Latin America and Eastern Europe, watch Hollywood movies and television shows.
They see sweet kind men who generally treat their women with a level of devotion and respect rare in the society they grew up in.
The vast majority of the Asian girls have been raised in heavily patriarchal societies. Men don’t do housework. Women do not question their husbands’ instructions. Men do not ask their wives opinions.
However, it is wrong to assume that this means that these women are submissive, but often the simply do not have any other option until they begin watching Western movies and television shows.
The idea that women could be treated like they see in The Notebook or Something About Mary is amazing to these girls… like something from another planet.
This means that often Asian women seeking marriage are looking for a guy who will treat them the way that they see women treated in Europe, the United States, and other Western countries on television and in the movies.
So when you meet Asian women thank God and Thomas Edison for Hollywood, buddy, because it lets these lovely ladies know how they should be treated.
4. Looking For Real Romance
In Asia girls often are still married off in arranged marriages in some areas. In the worst cases girls are still sold like cattle. Sometimes the women have never even met their groom until their wedding day. That is not the sort of relationship most Western men want when they go to meet Asian women.
Most Western guys who sign up at an International dating agency are not looking to buy a sex slave.
They are looking for romance.
Asia girls are often frustrated that the men in their countries are not very romantic and that is one of the primary reasons that they sign up to be Asian mail order brides. The woman may be defying the wishes of her family to marry a man from a Western country, because in some Asian countries it is still taboo to marry outside of your own ethnic or religious group.
So, the point is, don't assume that you know that much about Asian women. A lot of the stereotypes are outdate, unfair, and will get you into a lot of trouble.
Treat every lady as an individual!
Most Western guys really are looking for romance even if they feel like they have to travel halfway around the world to find it and there are many beautiful Asian mail order brides who are incredibly happy to be romanced.
Asian Girls Vs Western Girls
The attitude of many guys is that, “Hey, women are women.” Well, that is true to a point, but there are some cultural differences between Asian women and Western women that are important to consider before you begin a serious relationship.
Asian brides are generally not as likely to offer their opinions as other women even when their husbands ask for their opinion. Many men like this situation initially, but it means that in an emergency the husband is completely responsible for the success or failure of the family.
Sometimes that puts more pressure on husbands than they really want, at least when things get tough.
Men that are not ready for that pressure should think twice about pursuing an Asian woman for marriage or begin planning how to develop a successful approach to the responsibility of being the absolute last, final word within his family.
All relationships grow and change and many men who build successful marriages with Asian brides begin planning for these responsibilities grow and change.
Early in the marriage the husband will probably be willing accept all of the responsibilities, but gradually he will be happy to see the relationship grow and change so that he does not have to make every household and childrearing decision. And if the husband is significantly older than his wife he will want his wife to be able to make good decisions about his healthcare in his old age.
Asian Dating Is Different Than Western Dating
Asian cultures are generally very relationship oriented. They do not like "dating" or going from one person to the next. To the average Asian woman, her dream is to find a man and spend the rest of her life with him. She has no ambitions or intentions of going from one guy to the next.
So, generally your Asian girlfriend does not want to be your Asian girlfriend. She wants to be your Asian wife.
If an Asian girl is sincerely interested in you she probably hopes that you will be the "one" and the two of you will share a happy and fulfilling life together. This also means as a man you may find it much easier to stay in a successful relationship with an Asian woman than with a Western woman.
The reason is that breaking up or ending a relationship is much less desirable to an Asian woman. If a girl is with you, she is probably quite serious about you, and is looking at eventually marrying you. Most women from Asia really dislike having multiple relationships or constantly breaking up with different guys. It's a very negative thing for women in Asia.
If a woman has had too many boyfriends in many Asian cultures, it can make it more difficult for her to find another boyfriend. This is because Asian men as a whole place great emphasis on a woman's "pureness" and how few partners she has had. The ideal Asian woman only has one partner in her life.
This is not always true, it is only a generality. Just understand that Asian women as a whole are willing to work to make your relationship a success as long as you will meet them half way.
Asian Dating Advice
For the most part in Asian culture, once two people are together its generally very easy for them to stay together. The culture as a whole pushes people in relationships to stay in a relationship. This is why it is advised you take your time. Carefully consider what kind of woman you want.
Then go through the trouble of finding the right one first, because once you do you will have a very easy time in your relationship.
My advice is if you need to get to know a girl first, be friends with her in the beginning. Then when you find the one who is right for you, date her and get into a relationship with her. It's important to understand that in many Asian cultures, after a few dates an Asian girl will more or less think of you as her boyfriend.
If you attempt to follow the Western model of "dating" several girls to find the right one, you may find it difficult and frustrating. It is possible to do Western style dating in the bigger or more liberal cities of Asia, this is just going to vary from place to place.
Just keep in mind that Asia is more traditional and understand the culture you are in - to avoid any misunderstandings or hurt feelings.
Communication is Key
The most important thing is communication. If you are with an Asian girl and your intention is to be in a relationship with her, or to marry her, you can be much more open about it than in Western culture. Intending to marry a girl is something that is highly praised in Asian culture.
Especially as a Western man, many Asian people will hold you in high regard and respect for marrying a local girl, and not just intending to see her for a few weeks and then leave her. So if you have these intentions, you can be much more open and upfront about them than in Western culture.
Indeed, depending on which country you are in, the topic may come up quite often. You may find many local Asian people asking you when you will be getting married, simply because you are in a relationship for a significant amount of time.
It's okay if you wish to wait for a few years, even five years. Or you can get married quite quickly too. Most women are more than happy to get married once they know you are the right one for them. A lot of it is going to come down to you, how you feel about it, and if you are ready.
We are constantly working to add beautiful Thai women, gorgeous Vietnamese ladies, and perhaps even some sexy Japanese girls to the profiles we currently review.
However, many of the Asian personals sites are not up to our standards here at ILS, but we are always looking for new Asian personals sites we can add. Keep your fingers crossed.
Choosing an Asian Dating Site
There are a lot of great international romance agencies in Asia, but most of them are focused exclusively on one country. ThaiLoveLinks does a great job for Thailand and JapanCupid has a lot of Japanese girls, but no one site covers ALL of Asia better than Cherry Blossoms.
Cherry Blossoms is one of the oldest international dating agencies, perhaps the first, and they have profiles of literally tens of thousands of women from across Asia. Check out our Cherry Blossoms Review or go directly to their website and see for yourself.
But a new competitor is really challenging Cherry Blossom, AsianDate.
AsianDate is owned by Anastasia, the largest mail order bride company in the world. It has an incredible number of gorgeous Chinese women, along with sexy Thai girls, and sweet Filipina’s as intensely devoted to the Catholic Church as your Irish or Italian grandmother.
The great thing about AsianDate is that it that you can quickly contact these amazingly sexy Asian girls through AsianDate’s amazingly quick and efficient chat system.
A Foreign Affair is another very strong competitor in certain countries, but their real advantage is that they offer Asian romance tours. Their tours have a great reputation. You can relax and focus on meeting the right lady and they will take care of all the annoying little details like food and shelter.
Things to Consider Before Seeking an Asian Mail Order Bride
There are many important considerations you need to go through before marrying an Asian woman:
First you should thoroughly acquaint yourself with the customs and culture of the woman you intend to marry. They may have aspects to their culture that are very different than yours, and you need to be aware of them to avoid any future misunderstands.
For example - In the past, in China, seeing a girl's parents was the equivalent of announcing your engagement to her. Now, in western cultures, just visiting a girl's parents is a step forward, but it's not the same as putting a ring on her finger!
While not true with all Asian countries, in some countries you are pretty much obligated to support your wife’s family and give them money every month. Ensure that you are clear about all of these things before moving forward.
If you plan to live in your Asian girl's country, have you already tried living there before marrying her? If not, its strongly suggested you experience life abroad in that country and see if it is the right lifestyle for you before moving ahead and tying the knot.
If you are planning on bringing the girl to your own country, are you aware of the visa requirements for her country and everything that will be required of you to successfully bring her over? (This can vary wildly from country to country, ranging from weeks to years, ensure you know beforehand)
One good way to familiarize yourself with your Asian girlfriend's culture is through expat blogs from the country your woman is from. Often expats give detailed, nitty gritty details about things that no local person will think to tell you.
You may also want to talk to your embassy in the country the girl is from; your embassy is a very valuable resource that can give you deep insight into the country.
Often embassy staffs are experts on the particular country and understand it thoroughly. They can be a valuable resource to help you have a completely seamless, happy marriage..