A Single Man’s Guide To Finding & Dating Beautiful Mexican Brides
Every year tens of thousands of American men get on planes and fly six hours to Colombia, twelve hours to Moscow, or even fifteen long hours to Thailand searching for a sexy mail order bride when many of them could drive and meet stunning foreign women in just a few hours.
It is almost crazy that most American men completely forget about Mexican mail order brides.
We love talking about international dating. We have articles about why Eastern European women want foreign men, the horrible problems Chinese women face finding a husband, and tips for dating Italian women among many other topics.
But sometimes it’s important to look at places bit closer to home for dating opportunities. Particularly when it is a place with all of the incredible benefits of international dating without many of the difficulties and expenses.
Where is this magical place?
Mexico is often overlooked as a destination for guys looking to not only date but get married to a Latina. This is despite the fact that Mexican women are some of the most sultry and sensuous women on the planet.
Mexico attracts travelers from all around the world but North Americans, especially, can take easy advantage of its proximity.
The fact that the United States and Mexico have a long border and enormous cultural influence on one another makes Mexico an international dating destination like no other.
The history of the two countries is often depicted as a violent struggle, but the Untied States has been a beacon of economic and political freedom for millions of Mexicans.
So, nearly every Mexican woman has friends and relatives living in the United States. Mexican brides understand American music, movies, and sports.
These señoritas do not have the same sort of fear about moving to the other side of the world like a women from Ukraine or Thailand. Usually, they are confident they can navigate American culture and tend to feel right at home.
They know that there are Spanish language newspapers, radio stations, and churches across the United States. Even more important with modern television packages they don’t even have to give up their favorite Mexican soap operas, known as telenovela.
So, a lot of the challenges that Western men face in other international dating hot spots are not an issue for American men. And if you have never seen a Mexican soap opera you are in for a treat.
Check out these ladies:
So, we’re going to take a look at everything you need to know about the Mexican dating scene, and how to find love, romance and maybe even your future wife on a trip there.
But first lets talk about why you should set your sites on a Mexican woman.
Why Western Men Should Date Mexican Women
A Traditional Mexican Wife
Mexican women in general are still surprisingly traditional when it comes to their expectations about marriage and family. Often disappointed Western men believe they want to marry traditional wife, but often they really do not know what that means in their wife’s culture.
Traditional Mexican family dynamics are not the same as in the United States and Europe. Traditionally, women had a clearly defined role. Here is how an American anthropologist describe the duties of a good Mexican wife in 1949:
The wife is expected to be submissive, faithful, devoted and respectful toward her husband. She should seek his advice and obtain his permission before undertaking any but the most minor activities.
Now, that would probably be a little too old fashioned for a lot of American or European men, but to a man searching for a traditional wife that probably sounds great. And for old fashioned men the description gets even better because the article goes on a explains that…
A wife should be industrious and frugal and should manage to save money no matter how little her husband’s income. A good wife should not be critical, curious, or jealous of her husband’s activities outside the home.
Wow! There are some of you that are probably just about to start brushing up on your high school Spanish. But before you decide that this is exactly what you have always wanted in a woman you need to read how this author summed up the role of a Mexican wife…
Although the wife is subordinate to the husband, it is she who has the greatest responsibility for the planning, organizing and operation of the household, and for the training and care of the children.
So, if you want to marry a traditional Mexican bride you should remember that she is going to expect you to defer to her authority about a lot of things American husbands are going to be hard pressed to ignore.
But these ladies make wonderful mothers. They are often the glue that bonds the family together and are known for their strong work ethic.
Of course, the Catholic Church continues to wield enormous influence in the life of Mexican ladies in much the same way in does for South American mail order brides.
If your Mexican girlfriend is from a less sophisticated and educated background, you can expect this influence to be even greater. Don’t think of this is a bad thing; the positive side of the church’s influence is the strong mothers and faithful and loyal wives it produces.
So, Mexico is a particularly good area to consider for Catholic men looking for a good Catholic girl to marry. There are still millions of young women who are devout Catholics and would like to find a man with the same beliefs.
The influence of the church is probably why Mexican girls tend to be more conservative about sex than many fun loving Latinas. Mexico is not Brazil, Colombia, or Panama.
The bottom line is that a Mexican dating holds a variety of treats and surprises. If you seek a woman for marriage it is a particularly good choice.
But there are a lot of more westernized girls if you just want to play the field who will put a smile on your face. Usually, modern Mexican girls are more in tune with Western fashion and pop culture.
Mexican Girls Are Stylish
Mexican Senoritas are sexy. You know that. They have a strong sense of style and fashion even when they are not particularly well off. They want to look good for their men and they do.
In fact, in recent years Mexico has had a fashion renaissance. There is even a fashion week in Mexico City now.
Mexican Women Probably Speak a Little English
Regardless of their education level girls from Mexico are more likely to speak at least a little English, because of the long border with the United States.
For native English speakers that will probably be a big help in learning Spanish or teaching your beautiful Mexican woman more English.
And English is the most common second language so even if your native language is German, French, or Russian you can still communicate with most young Mexican women in broken English.
Actually, this approach can be nice, because both of you are growing and learning together, but again this is another place where Gringos have a big advantage.
Why Mexican Women Want to Date You
Let’s get the cynicism out of the way before we go any further: It’s not always about getting a green card, or visa.
That stereotypical view you have of Mexico as being some kind of downtrodden third world toilet doesn’t reflect in the growing economy in the country. In fact, that big country down south of Texas is booming!
Sure, there are problems, but what developing country do you know that doesn’t have its own set of flaws?
Yes, dating and marrying a Western guy can offer any single Mexican woman more financial security, and a better standard of living, but there’s more to it than that.
Looking for Real Love
The main reason why Mexican women want to date you is because they want to be in a relationship where they are treated with respect. Many of them will be overjoyed with the traditional family roles – if you respect the your wife’s sphere of influence.
Today in Mexico, like many of the nations that produce the most mail order brides, young women are squeezed on both sides.
They have been influenced by Western feminist ideas about their potential to chart their own course with their life and career, but are also assaulted by men who violently insist on more power in a relationship than the old traditions ever allowed.
Mexican men tend to reek of machismo, and because of this they expect to be dominant in the relationship, while their shy and retiring wife cooks, cleans and has babies.
And it seems to have gotten worse in recent years.
Mexico has had a far bloodier history than any other nation in Latin America. Traditionally, a husband could on rare occasions use physical violence to correct his wife, but a man who went too far faced social scorn, often led by the parish priest, retribution by her family, and even legal consequences.
But in recent years during the so-called Drug War, Mexican men have killed one another by the hundreds of thousands and society has broken down.
Social scorn is often useless in large Mexican cities, the police and courts have been gutted, and families realize that physical threats may well start a cycle of incredibly bloody violence.
The drug lords rule their gangs with an iron fist, so many guys want to rule their girlfriends the same way. At times it is horrific.
For instance, the very old tradition of buying a bride, literally purchasing a girl has come back much stronger than it has been in over a hundred years. Right, now you can buy a virgin for about $9500 in parts of Southern Mexico.
These are NOT Mexican mail order brides! That is slavery.
Buying a wife is not a route to happiness and might well get you sent to prison for kidnapping or human trafficking if you bring her back to the United States or another Western nation.
Latina mail order brides are marrying foreign men to avoid exactly this sort of treatment.
And if things can get even worse, Mexican men also – like most Latinos – have a reputation for pedelear otra bicicleta, or what translates to cheating. That too seems to have grown with the social breakdown of the Drug War.
The tiny irony here is that Mexican women both expect and want their men to be masculine, but they don’t want to marry violent thugs or men who admire the thugs. They do not want to be treated as second class citizens.
They often look back fondly on the traditional marriage practices, but in they want respect, affection, and compassion.
Mexican women are looking for the type of loving relationship they simply can’t find with many of the local lotharios, thugs, and losers.
Yes, there are millions of decent Mexican men. Not every Mexican guys is a jerk or a criminal. But given the hundreds of thousands of young men who have died in the Drug War, gone north to the United States, or have morphed into thugs that women are justifiably hesitant to become involved with.
That means there are literally hundreds of thousands of beautiful young women who are very curious about foreign men. They watch a lot of American and European TV and movies and they want to be treated like the women in those stories.
They probably want to be treated a lot like you enjoy treating women. If you do it
They Don’t Want To Be Spinsters
Mexico is still a very traditional Catholic country, and with that comes the expectation that women get married at a younger age than is common in North America, for example.
What you might not realize is that at least 20% of Mexican women get married by the time they turn 18. In some rural areas women sometimes marry at even younger ages.
It’s not uncommon for 20-something single Latinas to be told they’re “…getting old”, so Mexican women want to meet and settle down with a guy in their 20s.
This is the complete opposite to Western women who insist they can wait until their late 30s or 40s to meet their knight in shining armor. And then hope that the fertility treatments work as advertised. Or that there are any eggs left to fertilize.
What this means is that no senorita wants to be single in her 30s, and the idea of being single in her 40s is just short of a fate worse than death.
Marriage and having kids is deeply rooted in Mexican culture, and even though times are changing, the vast majority of Mexican women will be family oriented for as far into the future as we can see.
They’re open to marriage and having kids in a way that most Western women simply would never understand.
What Are Mexican Women Like?
Unless you’ve been living in a cave for the last 30 years you will no doubt know who both Salma Hayek and Selena Gomez are.
If, however, you have been living in some sort of underground dwelling for three decades…well…please accept our apologies.
Both Salma and Selena are stunningly beautiful women, but are they the exception rather than the rule when it comes to what Mexican women look like?
Check out Aleida Nunez, Ninel Conde and Ximena Navarrete, for example, if you need any further proof that Mexican women are truly are some of the hottest in the world.
These women give you some idea of what to expect on the dating and romance scene in Mexico – women who take pride in their appearance and refuse to bow to the feminist nonsense that beauty isn’t something to be celebrated.
Mexican beauties have drawn lonely gringos south into the Republic of Mexico for at least a hundred and fifty years and it is easy to understand why.
Mexican Women Are Exotic.
Usually they have dark eyes and classical features. They also often have an air of mystery that is very sexy.
But at the same time these ladies are among the most culturally similar mail order brides for Americans and Europeans. Mexican cultural is largely Spanish. Oh, there are some traces of Aztec culture left, but they are few and far between in most young women.
For the most part Mexican women have the same set of beliefs and cultural practices as women from anywhere in Southern Europe. So, they are a particularly good match for Italian Americans, for instance.
And this mix of the exotic and understandable has been a huge draw for older Americans at least since the Mexican War. Single Mexican women are interesting and exciting, but they are not inscrutable.
Asian woman are often hard to read because of language and cultural differences. For Slavic women being non-committal, careful, and reserved is a self-defense mechanism that makes a lot of sense if you think about the history of Eastern Europe over the last hundred and fifty years.
Sometimes Russian girls just want to keep their heads down and not take any risks, because they have been told doing otherwise is dangerous.
With your average senorita what you see is what you get. A Mexican bride might be shy or she might be the classic fiery Latina, but what you see is what you get.
Mexican Women Love to Flirt
In Mexico flirting is a high art form. In fact, Mexican girls maybe the most accomplished flirts anywhere.
They smile and laugh and giggle. A sexy Mexican woman will reel men and toss them right back with out a thought for busted egos or broken hearts.
Beautiful Mexican women obviously enjoy the romantic chase, but when a senorita gets serious about a man she is usually completely serious.
Maybe, this is because Mexican ladies have flirted enough that they know just what they want in a man and when she sees him she commits.
Well, whatever the reason when she is in she is in.
What Do Mexican Women Look Like?
Very few women here are what could be considered tall, or not unless you consider 5-feet 2-inches to be above average height.
In fact, most of them are as petite as Salma Hayek, but the smoldering dark eyes, long hair, and flawless skin more than makes up for their diminutive stature.
Or at least it does in our humble opinion.
Why are Mexican women so hot?
The Native American and Spanish colonial influences play a big part in this, but so does their obsession with healthy living and healthy eating.
You heard that some Mexican women can be a bit thick?
That’s not a great way to put it – we prefer to say curvaceous, but it is true that very few of these senoritas are stick thin.
Does this mean they’re fat?
Very few of them could be considered even remotely fat when compared to the 300lb beasts found in some parts of North America and Europe.
You’ll also find they are polite but passionate. They’re caring and cheerful, but prone to become fiery when challenged or upset. They’re sentimental but can also have moments of what appears to be insanity.
Or in other words…they’re like most women.
But don’t ever underestimate the force of a Latina’s fury…just back off and let her cool down because she’ll have forgotten the argument ten minutes later.
Mexican women love to dress well, embracing their femininity instead of hiding it. They also tend not to wear a lot of makeup because they genuinely don’t have to, unlike Western women who spend more time putting on and taking off makeup than they do on most dates.
Your Mexican girlfriend will have no concept of punctuality, so meeting her at 8pm means somewhere between 8pm and 9.30pm…but possibly 10pm.
Women here love to cook, and she’ll do this every opportunity she gets once she knows you a bit better. Just saying “eggs” will be met with 12 different ways to have them cooked, so be decisive.
Oh, and they’re really, really superstitious – and that includes very modern Mexican women.
There are a whole variety of things they won’t do because “…that means I’ll never get married”, and these include sitting in a corner and having a brush run over their feet.
What Do Mexican Women Want In A Man?
Dress For Success
The first step is to dress for success. Yes, we know that’s a total cliché but Latin American women hate sloppy dressers. It’s probably because they put so much effort into looking amazing every day.
They just can’t wrap their head around why a guy would turn up with 5-day stubble, shorts, pit stains and then expect her to be happy about it.
So, if your idea of high fashion is clean gym shorts think again. Mexican women are almost as tough about the grooming of their suitors as women anywhere including Russia.
This is no fashion magazine, but the simple truth is, sexy Mexican chicks have a lot of ego and they are not going to go out with a bum.
If you are not up to all of this I suggest you head to the Philippines. There most men dress in old flip flops, gym shorts, and ragged muscle shirts, no matter what their physique.
And that works there, but in Mexico City you are not going to be able to get a woman to so much as speak to you.
Grooming Will Score You Points
As well as dressing well, n Mexico you need to be clean shaven. Oh, you can get away with a beard if it is immaculately groomed, but otherwise forget it. Even then you need to carry it off with a certain flair, so clean shaven is just easier unless you are a fanatic for facial hair.
The same thing goes for your hair. Generally, long hair is a risk. If it looks awesome that is one thing, but if not just cut it off.
Learn Her Language
Learning at least some Spanish will also give you an edge on the local dating scene. Don’t assume that all the Mexican singles you come across will speak fluent English, because that simply won’t be the case.
Learn to Dance
Dancing is part of South American dating culture, so you can expect it to be just as important in Mexico. Don’t worry if you’re not a great dancer – most of these women have been dancing since they could walk.
Yes, they’ll probably make fun of you, but the simple act of not taking yourself too seriously will endear you to all but the most stone-faced, feminazi senoritas.
So don’t be afraid to trip up, fall over, and have fun. You can score serious brownie points for having a self-deprecating sense of humor.
Don’t Be a Cheapskate
Mexican women hate cheap guys, so even though you might not like the idea of having to pay for meals and drinks, look at it as an investment in your future happiness.
A night out in Mexico for a couple might only cost $30, but for some reason Western guys will shy away from paying that amount because they feel they’re being taken advantage of.
But these same guys have no problem with dropping $300 on a date with some gold digger from LA or New York.
The trick is that once she sees you’re not a cheapskate she’ll be more than happy to go Dutch on the bills. Just have a little faith, and take the leap knowing there’s a reward for you at the end.
Be a Man
Beta males, feminists and soy boys are out.
You can forget about having a successful relationship with 90%+ of Mexican women if you’re any of the former. The reason why is that traditional gender roles are still the norm in Mexico. That means men are men and women are women.
A strong, fiery Mexican woman has no interest in dating a guy who isn’t sure what toilet he should use depending on how he feels when he wakes up that morning.
What Mexican women like in men include masculinity, politeness, dressing well, and basically not acting like an ass the whole time.
Mexican women dig gentlemen, so be a gentleman. It’s traditional for the guy to pay for dinner and drinks, although that’s slowly changing with the current generation of single Latinas.
They’re also not obsessed with age, so are usually quite happy to date older guys, although there are obviously limits on that too.
What’s more important to them than age, social status, or financial standing is loyalty. They want to build a family with the right guy, so any attempt at cheating or lying will bring your relationship with your sexy senorita to a screeching halt.
And it’s highly unlikely you’ll get a second chance with her.
How To Treat A Mexican Woman
We’ve already touched on the point that Mexico is a conservative country, and this applies to the traditional values found in Mexican dating culture.
While women from “developed” countries enjoy hopping in and out of bed with whoever takes their fancy, Mexican women are way more reserved. They have a reputation for being passionate, but they won’t do that with just anyone, and especially not on a casual basis.
Yes, there are plenty of single Mexican women who sleep around, but the Mexican woman you want as a future wife is the one who doesn’t jump into bed with you on the first date.
In fact, you’ll be lucky to get a kiss on the cheek on your first date.
This is actually a good thing because it’s a sign she likes you, but she wants to make sure you feel the same way.
You can tell if a woman here likes you because she’ll want to take things more slowly, and they’re so warm and welcoming you’ll actually find yourself appreciating this.
It’s a real novelty to just go on a date with a woman without sex being the only outcome at the end of the night – it destroys any sense of mystery or suspense, no?
Some Mexican women will go as far as abstaining from sex until they get married, although this is becoming quite rare.
You should never, ever pressure women here into sleeping with you – she won’t appreciate it and you’ve just painted yourself as yet another PUA guy trying to put the whammy on an inexperienced local girl.
The weird thing is that these same women can be quite flirty when in a relationship. They even have a name for it – piropeo.
Don’t be surprised when your girlfriend refers to you as “mi amor”, or “mi guapa” – “my love” or “my beautiful”, because that’s the norm here.
Flirting can even extend to the use of sexual innuendos, which are common amongst groups of friends. So, you really, really need to understand the difference between an off the cuff comment, and an invitation to sleep with her. There’s a huge difference, so be really clear about her intentions before you make any sudden moves.
Latina dating culture is probably very different to anything you’ve experienced before. It does take more effort, but the rewards are always worth it.
Mexican Marriage Agencies
So, now that you know all about the women here, their psychological makeup, and all their likes and dislikes – how do you attract a senorita with the aim of making her your Mexican bride?
The first step is to line up some dates before you arrive.
Just bear in mind that Mexico has a population of 130 million people, and is a pretty big place, so try to cluster your dates into one city or state if possible.
You can use a Mexican dating agency instead of a regular website, and if you do then watch out for all the usual warning signs like being asked to pay in advance, being charged for every message, etc.
Our favorite marriage agency is A Foreign Affair. Here’s a shot of the first page of their Mexican profile gallery:
As you can see they have some pretty hot Mexican single ladies over there.
Where to Meet Single Mexican Women
So, where should you go to meet these sexy Senoritas? It’s your choice; you can try dating Mexican women from the frontier towns of Matamoros, Brownsville, Ensenada, or Tijuana; to the beautiful beaches of Zihuatanejo, Mazatlan, or Cancun.
Or enjoy the delights of colonial San Miguel de Allende; or take in the sights of giant Mexico City. Just be aware of your surroundings, listen to the local police, and don’t be foolhardy.
One of the most popular destinations for men seeking Mexican girlfriend or wife is Guadalajara. This beautiful city is known as the city of eternal spring. It has a great climate.
You can find claims all over the internet that National Geographic once ranked Guadalajara’s climate as the second most perfect in the world.
The problem with that claim is you can find it everywhere but in the National Geographic, so it was probably created by a real estate developer or someone with the Guadalajara Chamber of Commerce.
The fact is that if the National Geographic ever did rank the world’s best climate Guadalajara would certainly be in the running. The weather is fantastic.
Daytime temperatures in Guadalajara are typically in the high 70’s or low 80’s and night time temperatures are in the 60’s. Mexican singles in all these different locales are constantly on the prowl for good foreign men.
A benefit of dating senoritas from bigger cities is that they tend to be a bit more sophisticated and open to the idea of dating a guy from another country. The Mexicans even have a name for women like this “Chilangas”.
Some of the cities popular with international daters in search of “mail order” Mexican brides are Mexico City, Guadalajara, Monterrey, Morelia and Guanajuato.
Mexico is a major tourist destination. It attracts travelers from all around the world but North Americans, especially, can take easy advantage of its proximity.
For men from the United States and Canada attracted to Latin women Mexico is the logical destination based on distance alone.
No, single Mexican ladies do not have the same international reputation as women from Colombia, Brazil, the Dominican Republic, or Costa Rica. But if you are serious about finding a wife that is actually a good thing.
Because you are not going to face nearly as much competition to meet beautiful women in Mexico as you have in Thailand, Colombia, or Costa Rica. Those international dating hotspots attract playboys, players, and lonely men from all over the world.
There are so many of these guys that if you go to say the Philippines on business you still constantly have to explain that you did not go there to find a girlfriend.
That is not the case for Mexico.
Yes, a few old gringos do wander across the Rio Grande looking for a beautiful senorita to grow old with and it is becoming a major retirement center, but it does not attract many international playboys.
There are a lot of nice things about driving. Mostly, you are comfortably in your own car. But Mexico is a huge country, the 14th largest in the world.
There is a good network of modern national highways, but it is still a long drive from say Oklahoma City to Mexico City.
At 1322 miles and at least 21 hours and 45 minutes according to Google Maps most Americans are not going to want to drive from Oklahoma City to Mexico City.
And that is a very generous travel time, because you can spend eight hours crossing the Dallas metro area if there happens to be some car wrecks and road work on the route or it happens to be a day that ends in Y.
Realistically, most men searching for Mexican women for marriage will want to fly South of the Border. Even from the distant corners of New England it is not a tough flight.
From Boston to Mexico City is only about six hours which is about half of a flight to Ukraine and about a third of a flight to Bangkok.
From California, Arizona, Texas, Georgia, or Florida the flight is going to be two to three hours. And that really adds up, because if you are serious about wanting to marry a Mexican woman you are probably going to have to make three or four visits to meet her family and so on.
And if you marry her there will be more flights for weddings, funerals, and holidays over the years and you will be overjoyed you did not marry a woman from Moscow.
So, you are not just saving a few hours on a flight. You are saving weeks or maybe even months of your life.
But What About The Crime?
Yes, Mexico is in the midst of a decade long crime catastrophe that has a body count similar to a good sized war.
This is the main reason that many men who love Latinas do not consider Mexican mail order brides, but it is also one of the main reasons that so many of the most beautiful, talented, and extraordinary senoritas are deciding that the best thing they can do for their future is to look for a foreign husband.
According to the best estimates nearly 300,000 Mexicans have been murdered by the drug cartels since 2006. The vast majority of those killed are young men from 15 to 30, and that leaves an actual shortage of men in parts of the country.
But this not the place for a history of the Mexican Drug War. If you want to read deeper on check out El Narco: Bloody Rise of The Mexican Drug Cartels.
But crime is something you do have to consider. The United States State Department recently issued a detailed Mexico Travel Advisory. You should read it before you go down start your adventure.
Here is a map that Time Magazine produced from the information in the warning:
So, make yourself aware of all of that information. If it worries you too much you can always check out the beautiful ladies in Costa Rica, a country with one of the lowest violent crime rates in the world.
Mexican Visa Laws – Bringing Your Mexican Girlfriend Home
Mexico’s visa laws are welcoming to all. If you want, you can easily visit for a few days, stay a few weeks, or take up residence for months or years at a time. The vast majority of foreigners in search of Mexican brides make for an interesting population of expats.
So, when you’re not out in search of your Mexican girlfriend, you will find a wonderful group of friendly expats from all over the world.
And if you meet a Mexican girl that strikes your fancy and you decide to bring her back home for a visit, unlike many other countries, tourist visas to visit the US for up to 6 months are fairly easy to obtain for a woman from Mexico if she has a steady job.
For our Canadian readers, the news is even better. A Mexican lady can enter Canada without even obtaining a visa. All they need is a passport, which any Mexican woman can obtain, unless they have a criminal record – in which case you really need to rethink your choice in potential mates, buddy!
Summing It Up
We hope that you’ve now realized just what an amazing place Mexico is for guys looking to find exotic women for romance and marriage.
Women here are just like Western women in that they want to meet a guy to fall in love with.
The big difference is that they’re not carrying all the psychological baggage that Western women are, and they’re also free of all the expectancy and diva routines that Western guys are all too familiar with.
Do yourself a favor and at least register for an account on Amolatina or Mexican Cupid. You’ll be pleasantly surprised by just how many stunning single Mexican women you find.
And they’re looking for guys just like you.
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