Complete Guide to Finding a Nigerian Wife or Girlfriend
Nigeria is a country about twice the size of California located on the West Coast of Africa and is named after the river Niger which flows through it.
It’s a great place to look for an African bride because it has the largest population of any country in Africa, about 200 million or so.
Why Nigerian Women Want to Date Foreign Men
Thanks to its oil reserves Nigeria is one of the most prosperous nations in Africa.
Unfortunately, that prosperity does not help the vast majority of Nigerians; as with many African nations, there is a dizzying divide between the rich and the poor.
This income gap is one of the reasons why so many Beautiful Nigerian girls go looking outside their own country for a mate.
Another reason Nigerian women want to date foreign men is because of their status in their own country.
On an international stage, Nigeria has a pretty poor track record (one of the lowest in the world in fact) in gender equality and women are often not even allowed to go out in public without their husbands being with them – Nigeria is a male-dominated society full stop.
Unfortunately, domestic violence and rape in Nigeria are all too common so Nigerian girls are usually looking for more stable, more loving and more productive lives with foreign men.
Compared to your typical Nigerian guy, you are a paragon of virtue and responsibility. That’s even if women back home think you’re a total ass-hat.
Are Nigerian guys that bad?
Not all of them, but domestic violence is a serious issue in Nigeria. It’s so bad that police often turn a blind eye to it.
Nigerian women know that would never happen to her in North America or Europe – the guy would wind up in jail, where he belongs.
Nigerian guys cheat a lot too.
It’s so bad that women here almost expect it…but still hate when it happens.
This is also linked to the fact that most Nigerian guys only consider themselves to be “married” in whatever town or city they live, but single anywhere else they happen to be.
Lying is something Nigerian men practice from when they’re very young, and they become very good at it. So they’ll lie to their wife or girlfriend and think nothing of it.
Nigerian women have also noticed how completely messed up Western relationships are – men don’t know their role anymore, or are being told what their role is by women.
So she knows that Western guys are looking for women who are happy to have normal gender roles in their relationship.
Oh, and Nigerian men focus on pleasing themselves when it comes to intimacy, whereas women here know that Western men want the woman to get just as much pleasure as they do. So that also works in your favor.
Why You Should Find a Nigerian Girlfriend or Wife
A huge difference between Nigerian women and women from more “developed” countries is they actually respect men, including the men in their families and their boyfriend or husband.
They have no desire to feminize you or want you to become a feminist.
In fact, they view how most Western women (particularly feminists) behave as disgusting. They have the same opinion of any Nigerian girls who party, get drunk and pass out like so many Western women do.
There’s nothing attractive or cool about that, and Nigerian women will nod their heads in agreement.
Women here, as a whole, view dating a white guy as an achievement. You’re a prize because of your skin color, but also what that represents – stability, safety, respect, and fidelity.
These are women who want you to be a man, and let them be the woman. As long as you’re taking care of business at home, they’ll be happy to have kids, take care of the house, and basically be a wife.
So, where Western women view being a housewife as having failed in life, Nigerian women see it as being perfectly normal.
Nigerian women – because of their traditional values – are basically a better match for most North American and European guys than any single chick they’ll find at home.
They say opposites attract, but long-term relationships tend to benefit when both people have a lot in common.
Dating a Nigerian Girl – What to Expect
Nigerian women might look completely different to most Western women, but a certain element of female society here has a lot in common with their North American and European competitors – they’re very materialistic.
A lot of this stems from the fact that Nigeria is home to a lot of very wealthy people. It’s overflowing with oil, and the rampant corruption in the country ensures that money flows in one direction – to the wealthy people and their cronies.
So, your average Nigerian girl looks at wealthy people around her and wants to emulate that. Nothing weird there, but something you need to be aware of.
They like financially stable men and won’t tolerate men who aren’t. You’ll be seen as not being a “real” man if you can’t take care of your money matters.
Women here are also extremely religious, so you will be expected to go to the church or mosque with her. This is also a test of how committed you are to the relationship, so play along even if the idea of being inside a religious building gives you the creeps.
Is religion really that important to her?
Yup, because if her parents are religious they’ll want their daughter to date a guy who respects her faith.
Her faith also means she’s not quick to jump into bed with guys. Saying that Nigerian women are enthusiastic lovers is a complete and total understatement.
Urban women also tend to be very well educated, but poorer girls from smaller towns and villages won’t be.
Family and community are very important to her, to the extent that her family and friends will drop by without warning. This takes some getting used to.
On the subject of family, your typical Nigerian girl believes in taking care of her man and her home.
But there’s a trade-off.
She wants to look good for you, but she’ll expect you to contribute towards that. This includes visits to the hairdresser and beautician…paid for with your debit or credit card.
What Nigerian Women Look Like
From an aesthetic point of view, Nigerian women are predominantly dark skinned but again with English, Portuguese, Spanish and other European influences you will notice a pretty broad cross-section of looks and skin tones.
What they do all have in common are their curves – that big booty comes naturally, contrasted by a tiny waistline and enough cleavage for any man to handle.
A surprising number of Nigerian women use skin lightening treatments. The view white skin as being a sign of wealth, so although they don’t want to actually be white, they do want their skin to look more caramel than dark chocolate.
Nigerian Girls Behavior
You’ll find that the appearance and behavior of Nigerian women will depend on what part of the country they live in.
Women living in the North, for example, will be followers of the Islamic faith and it’s rare to see a female Nigerian Muslim any further than a few feet from her husband.
In the larger cities, such as Lagos and the capital, Abuja, Nigerian women are much more likely to be highly educated and much more in tune with the broader world, but many Nigerian ladies living in more rural areas are likely to much less educated and in tune with modern western culture.
In the South Nigerian women are a bit more liberated and with a massive divorce rate in the country you’ll find that the vast majority of single Nigerian women are very interested in becoming Mrs. Somebody, and as soon as they possibly can.
Most Nigerian brides will usually be pretty conservative by the standards of the United States and Europe and they will also usually expect that you fulfill the traditional male role.
Normally, that means they expect that you are willing to be a leader within the family and the breadwinner.
You may believe that you want to find a beautiful African bride with traditional views, but different cultural practices can cause a lot of friction within a relationship.
It seems very simple until you are involved in a relationship, so take some time to understand the culture before you get serious about a sexy African girl.
Don’t Worry about Language Barriers
Top 20 Nigerian Language
|Language||States With Most Speakers|
|Gun-gbe||Lagos (Badagry area)|
|Ebira||Kwara, Kogi, Plateau, Edo|
|Igala||Benue, Kogi, Edo, Anambra|
|Nupe||Nassarawa, Niger, Kogi, Kwara, Abuja, Benue|
|Tiv||Benue, Plateau, Taraba|
|Kanuri||Yobe, Borno, Jigawa|
|Ijaw(Ijo)||Bayelsa, Delta, Rivers, Ondo, Akwa Ibom|
|Fulani||Adamawa, Borno, Nassarawa, Taraba, Yobe, Sokoto, Zamfara|
|Igbo(Ibo)||Abia, Anambra, Ebonyi, Enugu, Imo, Delta, Rivers, Akwa Ibom|
|Yoruba||Edo, Ekiti,Ogun, Ondo, Oshun, Oyo, Kogi, Kwara, Lagos|
|Hausa||Bauchi, Gombe, Kaduna, Kano, Katsina, Kebbi, Niger|
Nigeria has a reputation for being one of the most ethnically diverse countries in Africa and with 36 states, 250 separate ethnic groups, speaking over 500 active languages you might think you’re in for a rough ride when it comes to communicating.
Fortunately, the official language of Nigeria is English and the fact that Nigeria only gained its independence in 1960 means that you’ll find English is still spoken by the vast majority of people and of course in all the hotels, airports, ports and other places where communicating matters the most.
It also means that dating a Nigerian should be a very straightforward process.
Religion and Your Nigerian Bride
Religion is a major issue that causes enormous problems in Nigeria, because about slightly over half the country is Muslim, about 50.2% according to best estimates, and nearly all of the other half of the country are Christians, although there are still a small number of Nigerians who practice one of several pre-colonial native religions.
The nearly even split between Christian and Muslims has led to serious violence, approaching the level of civil war in some areas, however, it is difficult to know how much religion really comes into play when Nigerian girls are looking to date foreign men.
The best rule for Nigerian dating, like most things, to keep religion in the back of your mind but do not let it sour everything.
Many Nigerian women are much less doctrinaire about religion than you would expect in such a conservative culture, and if you are religiously conservative you will probably be surprised by the beliefs of a religiously conservative Nigerian lady.
They might very well be different from your beliefs, so try to keep an open mind or at least be prepared even if your bride’s religious beliefs are extremely important.
Dating Culture in Nigeria
Communication is the key to a successful relationship – something very few Nigerian guys do. The good news is that this is made a lot easier because English is the official language here.
You should be aware that some Nigerian parents can be racist towards white people. It’s rare, but it does happen.
Confidence is also something women here both want and look for in a guy. So, the “shy guy” routine that’s worked for you at times is wasted on any Nigerian girl.
If you’re genuinely shy, then get some coaching on being more confident around women. Or at least acting like you’re more confident.
You should pay for everything on the first date, but wait to see if she objects or questions why you’re doing that. If she doesn’t question it then she’s probably the materialistic type and you need to walk away.
If she’s not willing to contribute now, she probably won’t change her mind on that later
The only real issue you’ll have on the Nigerian dating scene is separating the materialistic women from the more sincere, genuine singles.
Once you achieve that you’ll find that Nigerian women make some of the best possible girlfriends, fiancées, and wives.
Meet Your Nigerian Girlfriend
One of the real advantages of Nigerian dating, as opposed to other West African countries, is that it is easy to book a flight and a hotel, because of the of the large number of American and European businessmen and oil field workers who regularly visit the nation.
Most international carriers and other African airlines will fly you to Murtala Muhammed airport in Lagos and air travel is the simplest and fastest way to travel to this bustling African nation.
If at all possible avoid traveling there during March to August – these are the wettest months of the year.
Most people think the capital of this African nation is Lagos but it’s actually Abuja, although Lagos is one of the larger cities in the country. Like many African nations Nigeria was once colonized by Europeans (namely the United Kingdom) but gained independence in 1960 from that same European power.
It is worth mentioning that like most African nations there are some areas where you should be more careful about traveling.
There is some serious civil unrest in both the North, in the predominantly Muslim area, and in the South where the indigenous people are fighting for a greater share of the nation’s oil revenue.
To be safe it is worth checking the US State Department’s travel page for current update and alerts.
Borno state and Yobe state in the north of Nigeria are to be avoided at all costs because of the terrorist activities of an Islamic group called Boko Haram – kidnappings and other terrorist activities are far too common to risk travel to either of these states.
Nigeria has had a pretty turbulent political history since it gained independence and there have been several military coups in the last several years – for good reasons and bad.
Unfortunately, corruption is rife at every level of the Nigerian political system although the current President Goodluck Jonathan does seem to be attempting some reforms.
If you intend traveling to Nigeria make sure you know where your consulate is located, that you have their contact details and be prepared to leave the country at short notice.