There is a Lot to Like About the Philippines
The Philippines is a great place to consider visiting if you are thinking about an Asian bride. This country of over 100 million people has so much to offer any Western guy looking to meet a woman who not only shares the same values, but also isn't opposed to getting married and starting a family.
The Philippines – a nation of 7,461 islands - is one of the most beautiful countries in the world. Other nations might have two or three world class beaches. These islands, many almost uninhabited, have literally thousands of gorgeous undeveloped beaches, lots of low mountain valleys, and thousands of square miles of virgin rain forest.
But there's so much more to the country, including the great weather and lots to do and see. You can spend time between dates at Taal Lake, Manila Ocean Park, or at the beaches of Boracay, for example.
If you don't want to travel too far then there's lots to do inland, particularly down in Cebu. The cost of living here is extremely affordable by Western standards, so you can enjoy a meal for two people for about $15, and an imported beer for around $2.
What we're trying to get across here is that you have lots and lots of reasons to visit the Philippines, from the stunning yet friendly women, to the amazing sights and an experience you won't forget in a hurry.
With its incredible natural beauty and the historical sites from the Spanish colonial period and the Second World War, particularly Corregidor, the Philippines is a great vacation choice. Oh, but more importantly there are the thousands of beautiful young women who are interested in dating and potentially marrying Western men.
Filipinas – The Modern Mail Order Brides
The concept of "mail order brides" has a long and rich history in the Philippines. For men interested in finding a beautiful Filipina to eventually become his wife, it's important to understand a little of that history before you book your flight. Doing this will save you a lot of potential hassle and miscommunication later on - the Philippines are different to any other country you've been to.
The first thing to know is that the Philippines was a Spanish colony for over three hundred years. The first Spaniard to visit the islands was Ferdinand Magellan in 1521. The first Spanish settlement was not founded until 1565 with Manila being established on one of the best natural harbors in the world in 1571.
For a few years it remained a backwater, but that changed when the government in Madrid realized it was safer to sail the colonial treasure fleets from Peru to the Philippines and on then on to Spain. It was a far longer voyage, but much safer because of the pirates and hurricanes in the Gulf of Mexico and the Caribbean. The Spanish brought the Catholic Church and an architectural style that still exists in many areas.
The islands passed to American control after the Spanish-American War in 1898. The American period led to the displacement of Spanish by English as the most common European language spoken. The Spanish had never been a huge impact in the most rural parts of the country, but the Americans flooded in and built railroads, schools, courts, and police stations across the country.
The net result of this was a large number of American soldiers, sailors and Marines were stationed around the Philippines, and dating between the two was common. Some of the Filipina brides migrated back to the US with their new "doughboy" husbands after the end of World War II.
It wasn't long before the Korean and Vietnam wars rolled around, again placing a lot of active US servicemen in the Philippines. Those same men stationed at Subic Bay and Clark Air Force Base pined for their pinay girlfriends but had no easy way to get in contact with them after they were transferred or discharged.
In those days international travel was much more expensive, and usually, when they shipped out of the Philippines that was the last time they saw their girlfriend.
But they did not forget those beautiful, sweet Asian girls. So, when the earliest modern international dating agency, Cherry Blossoms, originally published a photo catalog of Filipinasin 1974 aimed most at American servicemen it was immediately successful.
Very quickly a steady stream of Filipinas began marrying American men. Soon the concept spread to Australia and slowly made inroads in Canada, Europe, and other nations.
Hundreds of thousands of Filipinas have married foreigners, so it is not a concept that you have to sell to a girl. She knows all about it. She probably has friends and family living in the United States or Australia.
These women often remain in close contact with friends and relatives back home, sometimes sending money to support their parents and siblings. This is part of the strong bond that exists in all Filipino families, and that's something you need to be aware of too.
Filipinas grow up with the idea that marrying a foreigner is a real possibility, and an ideal outcome in many cases. For a man pursuing a girl from the Philippines this means you’ll find women here receptive to the ideal of relocating, but it also creates some minefields you should be aware of.
The Modern Filipina - Smart, Sexy and Motivated to Marry a Foreign Guy
Today there are still many smart, sexy young pinays that are happy to marry a man from the United States, the EU, or another Western country. There's no psychological or cultural barrier around dating and marrying older men - being "mature" can often work in your favor here. But, with that said, they don't want to be seen as simply accessories to their future husbands.
One of the worst mistakes foreign men make is putting too much faith in the idea of the “submissive oriental bride.” Although elements of it are true - Filipinas are more submissive than a Western woman - it is not a signal that the women here are willing to put up with bad behavior, dishonesty or infidelity.
Like women in other countries where international dating is common, many Filipinas sign up for mail order bride agencies because they are tired of the overwhelmingly male dominated culture of their homeland.
Despite it’s incredible natural beauty the Philippines can be a tough place for girls to grow into young women. A recent report on the living conditions of girls in the Philippines explained that thousands of girls are forced into prostitution each year often by their brothers or fathers. It went on and noted that:
Each year, some 3,266 more Filipino children 15 – 18 years old are forced into the sex industry, mostly coming from semi-rural and urban areas, and are victims of incest and sexual abuse. Some groups estimate that 25 percent of all reported prostituted Filipino females..." are underage.
Filipina’s deserve respect and so do all of the other Asian ladies we have profiled here at International Love Scout. If you cannot give them the respect, compassion, and support they need you should stop and get your own life in order before you bring some poor woman from the far side of the world into your life.
In fact, if you are too concerned about finding a submissive mail order bride you probably need to stop and consider whether or not maybe the problem in your love life is YOU.
They’re usually looking for a foreign man precisely because they have a reputation for treating women better. And that's something that Western women take for granted - men treat them well as part of their culture.
Don't Be A Babaero
Far too many men from the Philippines are considered "babaero" by the women here. Roughly translated from Tagalog, it means "playboy" or "womanizer". They will cheat on their girlfriends or wives any chance they get, and then deny anything ever happened. Cheating is something that's just taken for granted as part of the male culture there.
There are a shockingly high number of single mothers in the country, and the story is always the same...
"My husband left me for another woman! I hate babaero!"
Because of this dating here moves at a slower pace than in some other parts of the world. A sexy Filipina may be a little slower to give you her trust, but once she does, she will be devoted to you for the rest of your life, or as long as you treat her right. Once a pinay has fallen in love with you, she'll stay that way unless you act like an ass.
Something else to be aware of is that that you might want to date several Filipinas at once, like you might in a Western country. That won't work here. In fact, most traditional Filipinas will find this disgusting, and you're instantly considered a "babaero" as a result. Consider yourself dumped! And in the Philippines the word will quickly spread that you're just another womanizer.
Remember, these women are often hardworking, many are trained as nurses or in other professions, and they are not just looking for a rich foreign guy to cover them in diamonds and furs. Obviously most of them wouldn't object to being spoiled, but that's not what they're looking for in a man.
Most of these ladies really are looking for a chance to meet a decent guy and become a happy housewife, and ideally in a Christian household. So, if you are looking for a sweet, sexy, realistic, young bride, then maybe a Filipina girlfriend is exactly who you're looking for.
What Do Filipinas Look For In A Man?
So, now that you know being a player (babaero) won't do you any favors, what do Filipinas look for in a potential boyfriend or husband. The weird thing is that as much as they dislike playboys they also don't really go for guys who are too nice to be wholesome, if that makes sense?
You need to understand the psychology of your average Filipina, and her expectations of Western men. She's seen European, American and Australian men portrayed as being strong and decisive - kinda like the knight in shining armor, but without the horse. She'll expect you to be masculine but without going over the top on the machismo.
Remember, the dynamic here is that she's looking for a partner but also somebody who can take care of her and any kids you might have together. This isn't a conscious decision on her part, but something based on centuries of tribal warfare in the region. If she doubts your ability to provide a safe and stable environment for your future family together, then she'll lose interest in you. She wants to be the woman in the relationship, so she'll expect you to be 100% man.
How do you appear more masculine even when you don't feel that way?
Fake it till you make it.
Step inside the mind of a George Clooney or Brad Pitt and carry yourself with confidence. Be the polite gentleman, but one with a hard smile and a steely gaze if he needs to make his point understood.
Basically do everything a gender studies professor would tell you not to do. Being a man your Filipina is proud to be seen with isn't about being boorish or violent. It's just about projecting the type of masculinity that says "I'm a nice guy, but don't push your luck."
Education Matters A Lot!
At a time when Western countries are struggling with literacy and numeracy levels in students, Asian countries like the Philippines value their education system more than ever. While young people in the United States, Canada and around Europe tend to take education as something they're entitled to, entire families in the Philippines work very hard to make sure the next generation have access to a better life than they did, including a better education.
So, does that mean your Filipina will expect you to have a PhD from Harvard? Not at all, but she will expect you to be literate and capable of holding a conversation that's about more than just football or baseball, or whatever your sport of choice is. You don't need to be a genius - just be above average and she'll be more than happy.
Not All Filipinas Are Party Girls
Most of the real Filipinas are quite conservative, and that's one of the quickest ways to tell them apart from the "bar girls." The girls you should be paying attention to when visiting the Philippines aren't the ones plying you with compliments and smiles.
Instead look for the girl who might be making eye contact, but is dressed modestly. That doesn't mean she's some kind of introvert - she's just keeping a respectful distance from a man she doesn't know.
The basic rule is this: A pinay who's interested in having a long-term relationship with you won't openly flirt with you until she gets to know you.
Filipina Mail Order Brides - A Long History of Happy Marriages
Although the history of the mail order bride scene in the Philippines dates back to the 1970s, this is still one of the best places in the world to meet and date a foreign bride.
What can you expect from women in the Philippines?
They tend to be short, feminine and very sweet. Their femininity is something that Western men find refreshing, especially in the current ultra-feminist climate in the United States and Europe.
While women there are doing everything in their power to eliminate their feminine appeal, Asian women are embracing their femininity more than ever.
What's also very appealing in Filipinas is that their looks are part Latina, part Asian and there are sometimes some European influences - it's very hard to generalize about their looks. What you can generalize about is that they're some of the most beautiful women in the world.
One of the biggest perks of dating women here is that English is one of the national languages, so you don't have to worry about ideas or messages getting lost in translation.
There are also no religious or cultural barriers to Filipinas getting married to Western guys, as long as he's a respectable, decent man who will treat his wife/girlfriend well.
The country is over 90% Catholic, so if you're looking for a Christian wife then you've definitely come to the right place. Pinay is the informal or slang word for women here, and it's used pretty commonly, including in this article.
They have a pretty good grasp of Western culture. That means you don't have to spend as much time explaining the basics of life in America to a Filipina. The Philippines is VERY Westernized, so there are usually very few social issues to overcome when a woman from the Philippines marries a man from a Western country.
Another reason why so many Western men will find happiness with a Filipina bride is because of the respectful and polite nature of their entire culture. It's not that every person you meet in the Philippines will be a polite Asian stereotype, but generally speaking it's a different mindset to what you find in the "developed" West.
Women here just want to get to know you - not push some weird political agenda down your throat at every opportunity.
The Philippines also has one of the largest Expat populations of men from the USA, Canada and The EU. It's a great place to retire because the cost of living is so low, and you get to enjoy the best years of your life in paradise.
Religion and Philippines Brides - Catholic to the Core!
Making assumptions about people, or an entire country of people, is usually a pretty bad idea. After all, everyone is different. Well, that's true except in relation to religion and the Philippines - it's a very religious country.
This is the national motto: "For God, People, Nature, and Country".
As stated above, well over 90% of the population is Catholic, and another 5% are Muslim. Religion becomes even more important to families here when children are involved.
This is one of the best (and maybe only) arguments for meeting your Filipina girlfriend's mom. That’s because if her mother is a wild-eyed pre-Reformation Catholic then that is probably what your girl will be like in twenty or thirty years from now.
Of course, in twenty or thirty years you probably won't care, but it's something for you to consider. Catholic or Christian men will find it far easier to meet and date women here because of shared religious beliefs, which isn't always an easy trait to find in a potential girlfriend or wife.
If that's something you need in a relationship then you, sir, are the proverbial right man in the right place, because there are tons of very conservative ladies here for you to choose from.
Generally, these conservative Filipina ladies are going to have the same cultural and religious views as the most conservative elements of the American Catholic Church, but they seem to take veneration of the saints and some of the other traditional elements of Catholic worship farther than you’d see in the United States or Europe.
What Are The Best Filipina Dating Sites?
The best place, beyond a doubt, to find the hottest, single Filipinas is a site called Cherry Blossoms. They're one of the oldest dating sites on the web and they offer a truly professional service. Check out their website or read our Cherry Blossoms review if you want to know more about what to expect from their site.
AsianDate.com also have a bunch of hot Filipinas on their sites, and many women who are serious about marriage congregate to A Foreign Affair, because of its solid gold reputation for integrity, but you just can't beat Cherry Blossoms for the sheer volume of Filipina dating profiles.
Another bonus for using Cherry Blossoms is that it has become the "go to" site for all of the hot, young Filipinas looking to find a foreign boyfriend. That's why I suggest you start your search for foreign romance there.
Another great site is FilipinoCupid - but I would only recommend using this site if you will be traveling to the Philippines for "fun" as many of the girls on the site are not looking for as serious a relationship as on the other sites listed above.
Philippines Romance Tours - Are They Worth It?
One of the easiest ways to meet women in the Philippines is by signing up for one of the romance tours arranged by A Foreign Affair. At this time A Foreign Affair is the only company offering romance tours in the Philippines. They are the largest tour operator in the world and they get simply rave reviews. If you have never considered a romance tour take a look at our FREE Guide about this amazing travel option.
On a romance tour you will be exposed to a variety of different Filipino women, as well as having the opportunity to take in the stunning sights of the various cities you'll visit.
Meeting a Filipina at a bar isn't rocket science, but as a Westerner you will usually get better results if the arrangements have already been made through an agency. It is important to remember that most women in the Philippines are typically conservative Catholics, in particular the ones that make the best wives.
You won't find a whole lot of conservative Catholic women in clubs and bars, and the ones you do find probably won't welcome being approached by a relative stranger. However, on a romance tour you won't have this problem as the women are actively looking for a western man to date, and possibly even marry.
One of the biggest potential issues with marrying a Filipina is that you are not just marrying her - you're kinda marrying her entire family. It's not unusual for your wife to have 5-10 siblings, a mother who is not working, and an absentee father.
The Philippines has no health care system, terrible social security and an extremely corrupt government, so it usually falls on the older daughters to support the entire family.
But before you go running for the hills, you should know that the cost of living in the Philippines is extremely low, so supporting them might only end up costing you a couple hundred dollars a month. And that's probably nothing compared to the last loan you made to your cousin Bob so he could buy that "sure thing" stock he heard about from a buddy, after both of them downed 10 beers in record time.
All joking aside, family and family values are non-negotiable aspects of a Filipina's personality.
Remember, she expects you to be a man in pretty much everything you do, and that includes understanding how important her family is to her.