The #1 question most guys ask when starting to investigate Global Dating is:
“Why do such incredibly beautiful women want to date a regular guy like me?”
Unfortunately, most guys are programmed by the main stream media to believe that economics is the only factor involved in a foreign women’s decision to look over seas for a mate.
Stories about Evil Russian Green Card Brides make great headlines!
Yes, economics is one factor, and we will get into that a bit later but first let’s look at some other factors that you may not be aware of!.
Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder
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Coming from the West we just assume that girls like these would have dozens of suitable men from their own countries hounding them for dates.
But this is not always the case.
The differences in the way “Desirability” is viewed in the West and the East has opened up a whole new world of opportunity for the Western male.
When you tell your petite, dark skinned Filipina girlfriend that she is beautiful, she might strongly disagree.
And the fact is, in her eyes she is not beautiful.
Because in Philippines culture WHITE skin is the beauty ideal. Try to find a bar of soap in The Philippines that doesn’t contain “Whitening Agents”
You can’t! Believe me I’ve tried.
It’s the same in Thailand and China. The Chinese conception of beauty is towards paler skin. If a women has what we consider nicely tanned skin then she may be considered quite ugly in China and thus not able to secure a boyfriend or husband.
Of course – it’s not just the color of her skin that keeps many Chinese women from finding love in their own country. There are also other discriminating factors at work as well.
If a women is over thirty or not a virgin she may not be considered suitable for marriage. If the women is divorced or if she has a child, or if she is from a poor rural family she may not be considered a suitable partner.
Nothing embodies this problem more than the phenomena of Sheng Nu.
This is a term loosely translated as “Forgotten Women” which is applied to Chinese women over the age of 26 who are considered “Too Old” to get a Chinese boyfriend or husband.
That a beautiful Chinese woman might be considered an old maid at twenty-seven is shocking to most American or European men in their forties or fifties.
It’s not just China where beautiful, intelligent women have trouble finding a partner.
The same types of social dynamics are at work in many other places in the world. These types of cultural forces are at the very root of the modern “Mail Order Bride” movement.
You are a Prince!
You might not be aware of it yet but you are a prince in shining armour.
The way that you act towards women may not seem like anything great to you.
But to a women who is accustomed to men who either treat her as a servant or sex object it certainly is.
As a Western male we take for granted the fact that we should take our wife out on dates. Buy her flowers, treat her nicely and hold her hand.
But this is not the norm in many countries.
The sad fact is that in many parts of the world the grinding reality of many men’s economic life mean that these small gestures are beyond them.
When you combine a dissatisfying work life with cultural attitudes towards woman that aren’t exactly enlightened then you create an environment that is not conducive to romance.
The traditional view of women in many countries is not much better than glorified housekeeper.
And among young men the situation is sometimes even worse. These men have no interest in getting married and are only interested in sex.
With all these factors at play it is not surprising that many foreign women are looking for a western male to treat them nicely and to be a supportive husband.
The kind of life that you can offer in the West is like a fairy tale to many of these women.
I currently live in The Philippines. The women here are friendlier than anywhere in the world. And I hear the same story over and over again.
The girl had a Filipino boyfriend who got them pregnant then took off – leaving them with a baby, or 2 or 3 to take care of all on their own. This is no easy chore in the West, but in the Philippines, which has no social services or child support it is a monumental task.
The women in Russia have a different reason for seeking foreign mates.
Alcoholism is a major problem in many parts of the world particularly in countries like the Russia and Colombia. The men there often live, as the saying goes “lives of quiet desperation.” Their only way of relieving this is through alcohol.
Unfortunately, many times spouse abuse goes hand in hand with these men’s drinking habits.
Am I saying that all Pilipino men are Philanderers, and all Russian men are drunks?
Of course not.
There are many great guys in other countries, but culturally the West has a leg up when it comes to how we treat our women.
And these foreign girls know that!
Many of the countries that these women come from just don’t afford them the same opportunities that they will have for themselves (and their children) if they marry a man from New South Wales or New York.
In highly developed countries these ladies can potentially get an education and pursue their interests, and for most of them their daily lives are simply going to improve.
The living conditions in parts of the world such as Latin America, Eastern Europe, and South East Asia are far from what many would consider the “American Dream”.
Economically, these women have a reason to want to date and potentially marry a man from a country that’s highly-developed and that can offer them things that people in the West often take for granted!
like reliable electricity and indoor plumbing.
For many of these women, meeting a man online through an international dating agency is the only way to realize the life they deserve.
Does that mean these women are gold-diggers or lazy?
Far from it. In fact, many foreign women are more motivated, more intelligent, and more driven than women you might date locally.
More Women than Men
Studies indicate that countries such as Russia actually have more women than men, which is another motivating factor for a lot of these women.
Instead of fighting over the men that are “left over” they choose to look abroad for a man that they can build a relationship with on their own terms.
When they enter the online, international dating arena, they have a much larger pool of potential partners to get to know than if they were just focusing on men in their own country.
A Broader View of What Makes a Man “A Good Catch”
In the Western world attraction is assessed on such a narrow set of criteria – it’s like high school. All the girls are programmed to want the same 5 guys – and if you aren’t one of them then you are shit out of luck.
In other parts of the world this is not the case – women look at alot more than your looks or what kind of car you drive when they are deciding if you are potential mating material.
So, if you are bald or fat or on the wrong side of 50, if you are a bit socially awkward and don’t drive a brand new Lexus, don’t sweat it.
There is some girl out there in a far off land and to her you are the guy she has been waiting for!
You just need to get out there and find her.
Editor-in chief – An over educated international traveler, he sets ILS’ light, positive tone. Chuck constantly pushes to ensure every article is supported by good sources, preferably from peer reviewed journals, government reports, or top-flight newspapers and magazines.