Russian women are still the gold standard of mail order brides. But don’t believe me. If you need proof of the incredible allure of these Slavic beauties check out our these actresses, models, and celebrities.
And the crazy thing about Russia is that none of the women on that page would stand out in Moscow or St. Petersburg or even in smaller cities like Novosibirsk, Perm, Kazan, or Samara, because the beauty standards are so incredibly high across the country. These women are obsessed with fitness, fashion, and beuaty. That can have a downside, but when I see an incredibly sexy Russian girl I simply can't remember the downside.
Negative internet trolls rip into them as “gorgeous scam artists,” but the simple fact is that it is rare to see a Russian woman under sixty – married or not – who is not fit, well dressed, and immaculately groomed. Of course, there is a genetic component to their beauty, but the primary reason there are so many hot Russian women is because of these women work harder at beauty than any other group of women in the world. They have a determination to be beautiful that I reccomend you simply enjoy.
It is a little crazy on some level, because they are so serious about fashion, beauty, and fitness. You need to remember that. One of the most important dating tips is to give your sladkaya, or honey, more compliments about her looks than you would probably do in the Texas or New South Wales. Do hesitate to tell her you have never dated anyone as sexy as her because more than likely you haven't. If you are an aging rock star and have dated women just as hot just remember the old saying, "The hottest woman in the world is the woman in your arms."
Yes, men are all suckers for beautiful women, but there are many other reasons why a men are attracted to Russian mail order brides besides their beauty. They are sexy, confident, intelligent, and, when they trust a man, incredibly vulnerable and compassionate.
Often they are some of the most highly educated. The country still has a great school system that pushes students very hard. It seems that many more of them study math or sciences than in the United States, but they also In Russia a deep knowledge of literature is considered a necessary part of a young lady’s education and that gives them an emotional depth often missing among young women in the West.
It is also probably part of why they are incredibly romantic. If they love you, they love you like a character from Tolstoy. They will become absolutely loyal if you treat them right, but a man should never forget they are RUSSIAN mail order brides.
What does that really mean?
That means they are absolutely certain they were born in the biggest and best country on God’s green earth. This is something you should not forget. Yes, they will admit it has some problems and they might criticize a lot of things about it, but they will not take kindly if you criticize it.
Their chauvinism can reach almost comic levels. Even Russian women living in Miami or Los Angeles with kids enjoying the American Dream writ large will usually turn out to support Putin, defend Stalin, and bluntly tell you that there has never been an American writer equal to Tolstoy. And don’t even begin to try to explain to them that the USSR did not defeat Hitler without any help from the British or Americans; it will get ugly fast.
The truth behind why so many Russian women sign up for mail order bride companies is complicated, but you should realize this is not a decision women make lightly. Because Russians are such a proud people mail order brides often faces ridicule for searching for a Western man.
To a certain sort of Russian patriot, it is seen as disloyal and a sign of a lazy women unappreciative of the sacrifices of her ancestors. Sometimes disappointed local men accuse them of being gold diggers.
This social pressure is no joke. On several occasions early during his career Vladimir Putin said similar negative things about foreign men stealing the best Russian ladies and in 2005 a bill was introduced into the Russian Duma to automatically rescind the citizenship of any Russian woman that married a foreigner. That bill claimed:
The prohibition for Russian women's matrimonial relations with foreign men is based on the disastrous demographic situation in Russia. Contracting marriages with foreign men implies the loss of a considerable layer of women's population for the Russian society. This factor undermines the national security of the nation, reduces the number of marriages between native citizens of the Russian Federation and harms the gene pool of the nation.
Of course, the bill did not suggest denying Russian men their citizenship for marrying a foreign woman. The bill did not pass, but it is probable that the drastically strengthen visa and passport restrictions Putin’s governments have enacted in the last decade are at least partially inspired by an effort to stop the most beautiful, talented, and intelligent Russian girls from fleeing the country.
So, despite what you read in the biased mainstream media opinion of mail order brides it has nothing to do with them becoming a sex slave or being sold into the white slave trade by some unscrupulous dating agency.
In fact, if American and European feminists actually looked at why Russian women decide to meet, date and marry foreign men they might have very different opinions on exactly why this type of marriage is so popular across the nations that made up the former Soviet Union.
Russian brides are no different than most women from any other corner of the planet - they want to meet a guy, fall in love, and have a family. They’re just girls looking for men to build a future with. Don’t believe the crazy myths about international dating.
The problem is they face far more serious challenges in achieving this goal than women in the West could possibly imagine. Even the idea of meeting a single, suitable Russian male in the first place is very difficult for a number of reasons, which we cover later in this article.
Worse, once they meet him what might start off as a story book romance often turns into something ripped from the pages of Dostoyevsky and ending in vodka, violence, and an early death.
The simple truth is that Russian brides simply want to find somebody to love, and they're forced to look overseas to make that happen. The idea of true romantic love isn't something they'll have an easy time finding at home because there are, for example, far more single women in Russia than single men - to the tune of 4 million more available women in the country than there are men to date them.
You can see from the chart above that for twenty years after the fall of the Soviet Union that deaths outpaced births in Russia.
This situation is made worse by the fact that the handful of Russian males actually worth dating are leaving Russia in the hundreds of thousands. In fact, there's been an exodus of almost 2 million eligible bachelors in the last few years alone. So, the men who remain are not the best and the brightest. Those guys are living in New York, London, or Sydney.
This shortage of men isn't just creating a dating crisis, with an adverse effect on population growth and sustainability, it's also creating an intense skills problem. There are simply better opportunities for these men in the West, as well as more social freedom and a relatively independent media, for now.
From an employment point of view Russian women get paid up to 50% less for doing the exact same type of work as their male colleagues. Even the most intelligent and capable woman will have a very hard time working her way up the corporate ladder in her home country.
The West, in comparison, is the land of opportunity for them, because there are no limits to what a woman can aspire to achieve. This is reinforced by the number of very successful female Russian entrepreneurs in the United States, acting as a beacon of hope to future immigrants. So, as you can see there are many – many reasons why Russian women decide to become mail order brides.
Russian women are curious and adventurous by nature. They want to see as much of the world as possible. It's not that they don't love their homeland, but they have an adventurous spirit, and welcome the challenge of relocating to another country - they're literally fearless.
Russia is a vast and often beautiful country, but it pales in comparison to the adventure offered by a life in the United States, Canada or Australia, for example.
Another key reason for so many Russian girls signing up to these sites is they see and hear of success stories, online and from friends who share the positive results possible when you date and marry a foreign man.
Instead of having to tolerate a life they don't enjoy, these happily married women are living a life their friends can barely imagine.
These women want nothing more than to be treated as an equal in their marriage, and for it to be a true partnership. Unfortunately, the stereotypical Russian guy isn't interested in that, and expects his wife or girlfriend to be nothing more than his obedient housewife, and to fulfill his sexual needs when he's sober enough to want sex.
If this is what you are looking for in a relationship stop reading, close the your browser, have a six pack of Bud Light, and watch some wrestling on the TV. That will make you feel better about yourself.
Some guys should not date Russian mail order brides. If you want to date a “submissive woman” you might be one of those guys. Follow the link and read about it for yourself. Then do some honest soul searching.
Yes, Russian mail order brides are more traditional than most American women, but they still deserve your full respect. A bossy, overbearing jerk is not attractive to them or any other women. They are looking for something more and they deserve it.
Russian men also have a reputation for being habitual cheaters - infidelity is something they expect to get away with, and without their wife or girlfriend questioning why they're sleeping with other women.
So, where an American or Australian guy might have a psychological meltdown for even thinking about cheating on their girlfriend, their Russian counterpart will quite happily cheat on their girlfriends while they're at the same party or in the same club.
You have to witness it to believe it, but it genuinely does happen all the time. And then women won’t risk causing an argument about cheating because the end result is usually domestic violence, and watching their boyfriend/husband walk away without getting imprisoned.
Male infidelity is simply a cultural given. A cultural given that Russian women generally hate and one of the main reasons that Russian brides sign up with international dating agencies. They are looking for love, respect, and loyalty. They deserve it.
Another huge consideration for why Russian women look overseas for love is that men in their country don't live very long.
It is actually amazing. Look at the graph below:
The reasons for this will become obvious later in this article, but the shocking fact is that the average Russian male isn't expected to live past the age of 65, but worse they tend to suffer from a poor health long before they die because of excessive alcohol consumption, and drug use.
Drinking among Russian men is epic. According to the most recent statistics from the world health organization Russians are seventh in the world ranked in terms of total alcohol consumption with many nations with strong traditions of hard drinking trailing far behind. France is ranked 18th, Ireland, is almost sober at 21st, and Germany, is 23rd despite Octoberfest.
It is safe to assume that Russian men, generally young men, consume the vast majority of this alcohol, but just below the surface the figures are worse. In France they drink mostly wine, in Germany mostly beer, but in Russian over half of this alcohol consumption is in the form of vodka.
That means that the average Russian consumes almost as much vodka as the average American consumes of all alcoholic beverages. Think about that. What if the fans at NFL games were drinking sixteen-ounce plastic cups of pure clear vodka? Can you imagine what your average fraternity party if the kegs contained Smirnoff instead of Miller Lite?
Now, you have an idea of what alcohol consumption in Russia looks like. It is not pretty picture is it? For Russian guys it is a catastrophe. Russia women do drink, of course, but, because of this bias towards hard liquor, they probably drink less than women in the United States or most Western countries. And, these official numbers do not reflect the huge popularity of Russia’s moonshine, samogon, which is more popular.
And this is not the only health problem decimating Russian men. For instance, Russia has a smoking rate that is over twice that of the United States. Most of the smokers are men and of course this leads to increased rates of cancer and heart disease.
Russian men also have a higher rate of accidental injuries than is common in the West. For instance, Russia has far and away the highest rate of drowning in the developed world.
All of these issues are obvious and Russian girls are fully aware that the average American or European male will live to around 80 years of age, making him a better investment of her time and effort.
It might sound harsh, but no woman wants to marry a guy who's going to die fifteen years before she does, leaving her without any form of personal or financial support, and with a family of children to raise.
Loyalty is all well and good, but never expect a Russian girl to be stupid enough to back a sick horse.
For the women who do marry alcoholics or junkies they can look forward to a very short, and very violent marriage, finally being left to raise their children alone. Even the most liberal Russian man will treat his wife as nothing more than a maid he's somehow fallen in love with, expecting her to be happy with that situation for the rest of her life.
The stereotypical blonde-haired, blue-eyed Russian hunks are as far removed from reality as Fifty Shades of Grey is from the dating experiences of most young women. The running joke now is that a desirable Russian male is a guy with some kind of job, most of his limbs, and at least a few teeth left - anything else is just a bonus. That is an exaggeration, but not by much.
Russian mail order brides are simply looking for the best husbands and fathers they can find. A hundred years ago they might have to catch a train into St. Petersburg. Two hundred years ago they would have ridden a sled into Moscow. Today all they have to do is get online.
The dating game in Russia is also very similar to what happens in China and Japan in that if you're not married by the time you're 30 then you're going to struggle to find a single guy willing to settle down with you. Why?
Because single thirty-something women are basically considered to be spinsters – they’re “on the shelf” for the rest of their lives. This problem is magnified even more if the woman already has children, which they often do in the Russian Federation. The country has the highest number of single mothers anywhere in the developed world, and Russian men treat single mothers like plague monkeys.
Western men, on the other hand, have no issue with dating a single mom, even if she is from another country, often looking at the kids as a bonus because it's a "ready-made nuclear family".
The subject of domestic violence is also usually very close to the heart of any Russian woman you speak to. In Western countries, for the most part, women can consider themselves to be safe in public places, and especially at home. Domestic violence is frowned upon, and is punishable by long prison sentences for convicted offenders.
Russia is a different kettle of fish in this regard because domestic violence is simply part of life for 90%+ of women. Not only that but the law was changed recently to almost decriminalize domestic violence. It is absolutely crazy.
A man now literally has to break his wife's arms or legs before he'll face a prison sentence, and even then his time in prison will amount to no more than 24 months in total.
If you don't think domestic violence in Russia can possibly be that bad, then you might want to take a deep breath before you read this: Over 10,000 Russian women die in incidents of domestic violence each year. That's equivalent to the population of a small town being murdered each year, but nobody being prosecuted for the crime.
This is a disgusting development for women's rights in Russia, but domestic violence has been a fact of life for most Russian women now for as long as anyone remembers. Emigrating women realize that they're simply safer in a foreign country, often having far more rights and protection than they ever will in their country of birth.
So, as you can see, Russian women have dozens of valid reasons for signing up to online dating sites, or using marriage agencies to meet guys from other countries. They understand there’s no guarantee they'll have a better life in the US, Canada or the UK, but the odds are far more in their favor for that to be the case than if they remain in their home country.
Russian had enjoyed an economic boom right up to about 2006, but once the financial crisis took hold every country was affected, including the Russian Federation.
In the early days of the New Millennium there was a short period when Eastern European women weren’t investing as much effort in meeting foreign men as before; they just weren’t as interested as they had been in the past.
This was as a result of improved economic conditions in Russia for many people, but the good times came to an end. A decade of prosperity isn't enough for anyone to want to endure a lifetime of economic hardship, so Russian women are voting with their feet again and looking to other countries for a better life.
This has meant a dramatic increase in the numbers of attractive, single Russian women using online dating.
But have things in Russian really gotten that bad?
The Russian Federation has been in an economic tailspin now for almost ten years. What money is available is being spent on their military, plus crashing oil and natural gas prices means there's even less cash to go around than in quite some time.
This means a new generation of Russian women are growing up in conditions that are below the poverty line, the same poverty line that exists for almost 20 million Russian citizens.
Millions of Russian citizens are now experiencing the "bad old days" all over again with fuel shortages, wages going unpaid, and growing social unrest becoming all you can expect from life if you're not one of the wealthy elite.
Oddly enough even the wealthiest Russians are buying homes outside their own country, particularly in the more exclusive areas of London, New York, Los Angeles, and Sydney. You need to pay careful attention when even the wealthiest people are making their escape plans.
Job opportunities are also few and far between, despite the fact many Russian women are well educated, even by Western standards. Basically, the economic prospects of the Russian Federation are far from predictable, encouraging even more of their young women to look for love in foreign countries.
Although it might seem like the entire world is ready to implode, the situation in Russia is far more volatile than either its President or Prime Minister would care to admit.
The Russian Federation has invaded several neighboring countries over the last few years, causing many Russians to raise their collective eyebrows in concern.
It's not much of an incentive to stay in Russia when you feel your country is constantly on the brink of warfare with at least one of its neighbors.
There’s been a definite resurgence in the number of Russian women looking to date foreign men, and you can see why.
Just remember that the decision to up and leave your country isn’t one any woman can make lightly, so as much as these women might consider leaving their country for economic or political reasons, it’s also about them looking to meet their perfect guy i.e. you.
The first and most obvious attraction is their looks, but there's far more to these sexy Russian women than just their natural beauty.
Women from the middle classes tend to be well educated and driven, so in addition to getting the wife of your dreams you're also getting a business partner. Your Russian bride will work just as hard as you to make your lives together a success, and if you own a business she’ll work with you to make that a success too.
Probably the biggest hurdle you'll face with a mail order bride is to snap her out of the submissive wife/girlfriend role, something which she learned from her own mother and grandmother.
Because Russia is a matriarchal society, women are expected to take care of the home and their men and not much else- their own dreams and desires never enter the picture. This means that Russian women are happy to put you first, even if that's the last thing you wanted or expected from your relationship.
She'll probably struggle against the idea of not just taking care of your needs, which is a very weird experience for any Western guy. After all, you've spent most of your adult life taking second place to whatever your Western girlfriend/wife wanted or needed.
So, in dating a Russian girl you're given the opportunity to create a real partnership with your wife-to-be.
Women from the Russian Federation are also extremely loyal to their partners, and are willing to work on the relationship if you two don't hit it off straight away. This is totally unlike what you'd experience with most American or European women - they'll run at the first sign of trouble, and then blame the guy for the relationship not working out.
Cheating on their husband isn’t something any Russian woman would consider to be acceptable, so as a rule they don’t do it.
Russian girls are very family oriented, so they will expect to start a family with you sooner or later. They care deeply about creating a comfortable home for you and your collective children - this is what they consider to be a "normal life", and she'll be quite happy if you can work towards this with her.
You also need to be aware that she'll come from a large family, and you'll be expected to get to know them. Russian families tend to be very warm and welcoming, so as long as you keep behaving like a gentleman towards their daughter/sister you won't have any problems.
This is in stark contrast to feminist America, where a growing number of women don’t rely on marriage for their financial independence. The unpleasant side effect of this is there are fewer children being born to American couples.
It's now fashionable for an American woman to wait until her mid-30s to consider having children, by which stage it's usually too late. You’ll find very few Eastern European women freezing their eggs in the hope they can get pregnant in their 40s.
Another refreshing change is that your new girlfriend will have a positive outlook on most things in life, even though you probably expect Russians to be somewhat dour, this isn't true of the women. They don't see any point in wasting energy on being negative, so they don't enjoy being around negative or pessimistic people.
You might not be familiar with the dishes she cooks for you, but it won't take you long before you grow to love them. She'll have spent most of her life making the most of very little, and this really shines through in the way women from this corner of the world cook meals. If you really want to blow her mind then offer to cook for her - you'll be the first guy to ever offer to do that, and she won’t forget it in a hurry.
Some guys worry about the whole language barrier issue, but this tends to only be a problem if you're dating a Russian girl who comes from one of the smaller cities. Most of the women who come from the larger cities will speak at least conversational English, with many of them close to fluency in English.
You can score extra brown points by slipping into your "Knight in Shining Armor" costume - Russian women really dig chivalry, especially because they see so little of it from Russian men.
The general consensus is that even male feminists from Russia are just north of being sexist pigs and misogynists. So, your Russian girl will expect you to hold out her chair for her, and to act like a gentleman in pretty much everything you do.
By the way, this includes paying for the entire date, even if she was the one who set the date up in the first place. She's not being a miser with her money - it's just how things are done in Russia. This also means that she won't have any interest in you if you're lazy, sleazy or in any way misogynistic - there's more than enough Russian guys out there to fill that role.
On the subject of dates and timekeeping you can expect her to be at least 15 minutes late for everything you arrange to do together, and that's at the bare minimum.
When she does arrive she won't understand you being annoyed, so don't waste any energy on it. Instead just factor in that she'll be late for everything, possibly including your marriage and her own funeral. She's not careless or lazy, she's just investing every last second in looking her best for you.
Russian women expect to be pursued to a certain extent, so if you get the brush off don't take it to heart - she probably still likes you a whole lot more than she's letting on. You might hear that Russian women like to be stalked, but that's not something you want to test.
Being persistent is part of the Russian mating dance, so can drop the "sensitive male" routine for a change. You can just enjoy being a man instead.
If you've seen any pictures of the average Russian guy you'll have noticed that casual wear includes sweat pants, shoes and a jacket of some kind – or the equivalent of what a hobo might wear.
Basically, once a Russian guy convinces a girl to date him he'll then start dressing like a moron. So, dress to impress on every single date you set up with any Russian woman. There's no need to go with a 3-piece suit, but don't dress like a slob either. Raise the bar here, and she'll start admiring you in a way you're probably not accustomed to.
One really odd thing about dating women from this part of the world is they expect you to be assertive with them.
Now, to be clear, this doesn't mean being rude, controlling, or showing off how much of a sociopath you are. What it does mean is that these women do not like indecisive guys, or emotional doormats.
If you start down that path with them, then you're already toast - you won't hear from her again.
Most Western guys will struggle with this idea, because you've been taught that being assertive with women is a bad thing, even when it's more than appropriate because they're behaving like a spoiled child. This is simply not the case with Russian women.
Oh, unexpected gifts are always welcome, but never, ever ask your Russian girlfriend what she wants as a gift. She expects you to know, and if you don't know, to find out.
Oh, sure there are incredible risks like you might find a woman who loves you and is happy to be married to you. You might find a great life partner and awesome mother for your children. Or maybe not, but at least you will have gone down to the sea in an open boat and tried to catch the biggest fish.
There are risks associated with everything in life, from crossing the road, to getting out of bed in the morning. More people die inside their homes than outside of them. That’s not to say that starting your journey to find a mail order bride could be considered dangerous, but it’s also important that you not be naïve.
For one thing, the cost of a Russian mail order bride is not even close to what many men expect. There are all sorts of caveats to that conclusion, but dating is always expensive. Even Amish men end up building barns. Well, nobody expects you to build a barn or even milk a cow, but there are costs and if that is a big concern check out our article on the costs of mail order brides.
The Internet revolutionized the mail order bride and international dating scene, increasing the speed at which introductions could happen, and resulting relationships could blossom. Instead of months of letters and phone calls, contact can now be made instantly via Skype, instant messaging programs and email. This is a great for everyone involved because it saves a vast amount of time and money.
Unfortunately the anonymous nature of the Internet has allowed some mail order bride scams to prosper – “sweetheart scandals” aren’t unheard of. Using trusted websites and “romance tour” agencies can help dramatically reduce your exposure to any form of financial risk, but using your common sense is also part of this.
So, if a woman you’ve just started chatting to on a dating website starts giving you a sob story about needing money, you should report her profile straight away.
The most popular Russian mail order bride websites filter through every single membership application, rooting out fake profiles while also asking women for a signed commitment that they won't ask any of the male members for cash, for any reason.
Some of the dating sites even go as far as asking their female customers to record a video to prove that their profile picture isn't a fake, which also shows that you can trust their membership program.
Finding somebody worth sharing your life with isn't easy- some people are so desperate they'll marry the first person that comes along. But why settle for less than you’re worth, especially when you can meet, date and maybe marry a Russian woman who might just make your life complete?
Dating a mail order bride isn't a bad thing because the ultimate purpose of it is to find true love, and isn’t that what life is all about?
When you have finally meet the perfect Russian woman to make your life complete be sure and check out our article on fiancée visas and learn all about bringing her back to the USA.