Yes, the women signing up for international dating agencies know that they will almost certainly have a better quality of life in the European Union, the United States, or any other highly developed country than they would if they remained in the old Soviet Bloc, Asian, or Latin American.
But more importantly, these women want to be treated with respect and they want to be LOVED!
Most of the countries that girls seeking to marry foreign men come from are heavily patriarchal societies where women are not afforded the same level of respect they are in the West. This varies of course from country to country, but today these girls watch Western movies and read Western books and they want to be treated like Julia Roberts and Meg Ryan, not like property of their husband, boyfriend, or boss.
In many of the countries where large numbers of women sign up with international dating agencies sexual harassment is an accepted fact of life, sometimes it is not illegal. Professional women and university students are constantly hit on by co-workers, supervisors, and professors. Often trading sex for grades is considered just part of the educational process for pretty young co-eds.
In Russia sexual harassment is so deeply ingrained that in a recent study 100% of businesswomen claimed to experienced sexual harassment in the workplace. Thirty-two percent of women said that they had to have sex to keep their jobs.
Seven percent claimed to have been raped, yes raped, on the job, but when a young woman sued her boss in an effort to become only the third Russian woman to win a sexual harassment suit she lost, because the judge ruled that...
If we had no sexual harassment we would have no children…
Don’t trust me on this take a look at This article about that case in the British newspaper, The Telegraph. It’s amazing.
In that last couple of years a movement has developed in Russia to pass some sort of sexual harassment law, but as of this writing nothing has been finalized.
Machismo and a Preference for Baby Boys
In Latin America the machismo tradition is still strong and in Asia the strong preference for baby boys carries over throughout the rest of women’s lives. Girls are often expected to defer to their brothers and locked out of many of the best jobs and educational opportunities.
In nearly all of the non-Western countries violence against women is a serious problem. Of course, Western countries are not free of domestic violence, but in most Western countries it is recognized as a serious issue, punished harshly by the criminal justice system, and the condemned by the public at large. The attitude towards domestic violence in many of the countries where the majority of women signed up with international marriage agencies is often much more permissive and often dismiss violence towards women as a family matter or in some cases even a man’s duty.
Take a look at This article on the education website The Globalist. It is a good introduction to the problem of violence against women around the world and it makes it clear why the Western Europe and the United States might seem like paradise for some of these women.
In much of Eastern Europe alcohol fuels much of the harassment and violence against women. It is such a problem that in 2009 Russian President Dmitri Medvedev called alcohol a “national disaster”. It drastically lowers male life expectancy and leads to an epidemic of violence against women. Violence against women is so bad in Russia that according to one study it kills approximately one woman is being killed in domestic violence every hour.
The alcohol consumption we have is colossal...
You Are a Real Catch!
Given these cultural biases it is easy to understand why Western men, who have a reputation for treating their women well, would be attractive to the most beautiful and intelligent women from Asia, Latin America, and Eastern Europe.
Seriously, the real attractions for these beautiful intelligent women are Western men who will treat them with kindness, respect, and devotion. Seriously, to many of these women the average decent Western European or American man seems like Prince Charming – a real catch!
If you read some of the longer profile essays at Anastasia, Elena’s Models, or some of the other agencies you will see over and over that these women are looking for men that are “nice,” kind” or will “treat me with respect”, and women also regularly mention that they do not want men that are heavy drinkers.
According to a recent article in The Daily Beast many,
Russian women simply have no interest in marrying Russian men... says Irina Zhuravleva, the head of Russia's census department at the Federal Statistics Service.
This Daily Beast article is amazing and it is a MUST read if you are seriously considering pursuing a mail order bride. It's is entitled Russia's Single Ladies Fed Up With Country's Useless Bachelors and that title sums up the situation very well. Even if you are interested in women from Asia or Latin America you should take a look at this article, because similar forces are at play in those regions too.
In Their Own Words
But if you really want to understand why these beautiful, talented, intelligent young women are willing to take a chance on international dating simply read their profiles. These ladies are clear about why they have signed up with an international dating agency.
For instance, this beautiful Ukrainian yoga instructor, says
In men I appreciate honesty, integrity, intelligence, restraint, prudence and efficiency. I wouldn't continue the relationship with the ignorant, rude, cunning, mean, dishonest and untidy man.
And Vika, an absolutely stunning Ukrainian fitness model, say,
I want my future man to keep his word always.
The real proof that the vast majority of women signed up on international dating sites are real is right there in the ladies’ own words.
The critical importance of cultural and emotional for these women regularly comes up in the work of the academics who actually interview the women. Pamela Haley examined the experience of Filipina women in South Florida and discovered somewhat to her surprise that the brides, “…unanimously deemphasized their own agency, and instead highlighted romantic narratives with each insisting that they had “fallen in love.”
She means that the brides she interviewed all said they married for love.
You can download her dissertation here.
Lisa Simmons, whose dissertation is easily the best academic study of the modern mail order bride phenomenon, and her discussion of why women around the world are seeking out Western men deserves to be quoted at some length.
She wrote that...
In addition to believing that marrying a foreigner would contribute to financial security, all of the women in my sample strongly articulated the belief that an American man would make a better emotional partner than would a man from their own country. They felt that a marriage should be based on mutual love and respect; and they wanted a man who would be able to provide the sort of emotional support that they felt was not easy to find among their own countrymen. The emphasis on quality of relationship was an unexpected finding because this aspect of international marriage has not been the focus on much media coverage.
That quotation is on page 107 of Lisa Simons dissertation, but if you are really interested in pursuing a foreign bride you should really read it cover to cover. You can download it here.
Simmons interviewed seventy-four people in the course of her research and the final word on why so many young women from around the world are pursuing – and they are truly pursuing Western men when they sign-up at an international dating agency should go to one of the women Simmons interviewed:
I needed a good husband and I knew since I was at least 14 years old that I could not find one in Russia. I saw how my father behaved and how the fathers in my friends’ families were. Russian men do not appreciate all that women do for them. They never say thank you. They never acknowledge the contribution women make. Russian men are spoiled and are unreliable husbands. Also, they do not consider marriage to be a partnership of equals. This is why I knew I wanted to find an American husband, because they see marriage as a shared partnership.
Irina, a Russian mail order bride, interviewed by Lisa Simmons
Irina sums it up about as well as possible for thousands of young women across Eastern Europe and around the world. However, you might also want to check out the article Why do women from Eastern Europe want to marry Foreign Men too.