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Why Do Women From Eastern Europe Want to Marry Foreign Men?

Why Do Women From Eastern Europe Want to Marry Foreign Men?

“Why do so many women from Eastern Europe want to marry foreign men?” men regularly ask.  Often after they go on to offer an answer to their own and claim that all Slavic women are scammers and gold diggers. 

It drives staff here nuts.  Why?  Because we have been answering this question over and over and over again since 2009. 

International Love Scout is the most the most trusted authority on mail order brides. We have dozens of articles that address what drives women to sign up as mail order brides and the dangers of beautiful Russian scammers, but we continue to get this question: “Why would such a beautiful girl do this?” 

So, this article is a desperate attempt to explain that question in language, so simple even a shoe salesman from Des Moines, Iowa, or a real estate developer from Orange Beach, Alabama can understand.

This article is going to cover the basic answer to that question in detail, but also go deeper so that even the most sophisticated London solicitor or a retired CIA agent is comfortable with the answer.  So, this article is a bit long, but if you really want to understand why there are so many beautiful Russian mail order brides 

So, this article is a little long.  You probably do not need to read the entire article, but if you read the entire article, follow the links, and scan those articles you will be well informed.  You will understand why Russia and Ukraine are still international dating hotspots and you will understand what those incredible women really want and how to make yourself more attractive to even the hottest Ukrainian ladies below:

The Golden Age of Ukrainian and Russian Mail Order Brides

The first thing you need to know is that this is the Golden Age of Eastern European dating.  It is an absolutely amazing time for you to begin this journey. 

One of the main reason that things are so much better today is that the mainstream media is finally beginning to realize that the end results of international dating are as good or better than the results of other types of online dating.  That means that the problem of mail order bride shaming that was such a ridiculous hassle for the pioneers twenty years ago have begun to fade.

Even the angry feminist professors are beginning to change their tone.  The latest academic research about mail order brides is extremely positive.  A lot of the ridiculous stereotypes about international dating, like the idea all Eastern European women are gold diggers and scammers, have been blown to smithereens, but guys still do not understand why so many stunning Eastern European ladies, mostly Russians and Ukrainians, continue to sign up with mail order bride agencies.

Here at International Love Scout we have been as guilty as anyone in looking at the most simplistic explanations.  Those explanations are not wrong, not as far as they go.  There are a lot of good reason why Russian mail order brides are back with a vengeance, signing up again by the thousands, after several years, from about 2008 to 2014, when far fewer Russian women si­­­gned up with international dating agencies. 

Of course, many Ukrainian women sign up as mail order brides because of economic reasons, so do many Russian girls, and also women from Moldova and even from European Union states like Romania, Bulgaria, Serbia, Hungry, Slovakia, and the Czech Republic.  ­­

­­­­Part of the reason is that Eastern Europe has become an increasingly paternalistic society since the Warsaw Pact tumbled into the dustbin of history.  Many of those states, particularly Russia and Ukraine, do not provide the same equal opportunity or legal protection to women anymore and that drives many of the most intelligent and talented women to sign up as mail order brides across Eastern Europe.

Yes, all of those reasons are true, but this article attempts to dig a little deeper and explain both why there are so many Slavic mail order brides and why this is truly the Golden Age of Mail Order Brides.

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Why You Are Lucky to Be Searching for A Foreign Woman Today!

This is the Golden Age of the Eastern European mail order bride!  Yes, this is the BEST time ever for a decent single man to pursue a beautiful woman from Russia, Belorussia, and particularly Ukraine. Ukraine is simply heaven for international dating today.    

I know you probably don’t believe that. A lot of websites talk about the 1990s as the golden age, but that is mostly based on myths about half remembered parties in St. Petersburg in during the Boris Yeltsin years.  And it is true that there were tens of thousands of stunning Russian women struggling to escape from the poverty, corruption, and despair from the ruins of the worker’s paradise. 

One of the best serious books from the period about the former Soviet Union, Waking the Tempest, written in 1996, explained that, “Life is wild, unpredictable, violent, the police inept or invisible, crime of all kinds flourishing, the government at a standstill.”  Moscow and St. Petersburg were awful places to live and tough places to visit unless you were absolutely rolling in cash. 

You literally had to risk your life to visit St. Petersburg, Moscow, Odessa, or even Kiev in the decade after the collapse of the Soviet Union.  There were Russian gangsters, corrupt police, and level of cultural rot that is almost impossible to explain.  Bribes were expected and often unavoidable.  Violence was a constant risk and occasionally foreign men visiting the Former Soviet Union were robbed, beaten, or even murdered.  

Many of the women were less interested in meeting a Western man for a serious relationship than in scamming enough money from fat, dumb Americans to feed their parents and siblings for another month than in marrying a foreign man.  A lot of women were scammers because they had to be.  They were desperate to survive another day or another week. 

It was an extremely hard place to live.  The women who were scamming were trying to fulfill the basic goals of food and shelter. They were trying to protect their family, and no one really understood that a modern mail order bride movement was developing.

 Actually, looking back on the situation, what is shocking is not that a sizeable number of those marriages failed, though far less than feminists ever admitted.  What is truly amazing is how many of these marriages actually succeeded and are still going strong twenty or twenty-five years later.

Sure, all of those problems still existed, but today you have a far better chance of dating a stunning Eastern European girl with little or none of the risk and drama common in the 1990s.   And the odds of marrying a great girl and building a long happy relationship are astronomically better today.

If you understand the situation it is easy to understand why this is such a great time to meet a woman from Eastern Europe.

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Eastern European Women Want a Better Life

First, the basic answer is to the question, “Why do so many Eastern European women want to become mail order brides,” is simple: Marrying a foreign man usually improves the quality of life for them, their family, and their children.   For many Russian women marrying a decent Western man provides more stability than they have ever been able to imagine.  For Ukrainian mail order brides, it is an absolute no brainer.  They are at their few single female friends who do not sign up with international dating agencies.   

These ladies know that they will almost certainly have a better quality of life in the United States, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, or any other highly developed country than they would if they remained in the old Soviet Bloc.   This was true in 1991 and it is true today. 

The economics are simple to understand. According to the CIA World Factbook, in 2016 after nearly a decade of robust economic growth the estimated average GDP of Russia was $26,100, down from $27,300 in 2014 because of Putin’s aggressive foreign policy. 

In Ukraine it was $8,200, and in Moldova, for those of you who know where Moldova is, it was a measly $5,200. Eastern Europe is poor.  That has been the case for a long time.  It is not a poor region in terms of natural or human resources, but because of political instability the region has not ever reached really reach its economic potential.

By comparison, in the United Kingdom the average GDP was estimated at $42,500.   Canada despite having one of the most formidable climates on the planet averages $46,200 in Canada.  Australia has risen to $48,200 in Australia, and at $57,300 in the United State the average GDP in the United States is more than twice that of Russia and almost seven times of Ukraine.  The West is rich. 

So, the numbers are stark, but they tell only part of the story because the distribution of wealth is so uneven in most of the old Soviet Bloc that even those numbers are too rosy and poverty, in many areas grinding poverty, is a way of life for most people particularly in the villages. 

So, it's obvious how attractive a Western husband might be to an ambitious young lady from strictly an economic standpoint, but that is only part of the attraction for the women who sign up with international dating agencies.   The cultural forces pushing these women – often the most beautiful, intelligent, and talented of their generation – to become mail order brides are extremely important.  For many beautiful young doctors, lawyers, and MBAs in Moscow, St. Petersburg, or Kiev moving to Butte, Montana or somewhere east of Perth might not actually be a good economic decision.   

The simple fact is that this not just an economic decision.  There are deep cultural forces pushing these women to seek foreign men. 

To really understand what is driving so many incredible Slavic women to become mail order brides you need to really understand the history of the most basic building block of Eastern European society the rural village.  Understanding the pull of village life for many Ukrainian and Russian brides will also help you be a more attractive boyfriend candidate and better at meeting their emotional needs as a husband.

Here is a Texan who found his dream girl on Loveme.com, our number one ranked agency.  This pretty lady sums up why Ukrainian women search for Western husbands very well.

History of the Village and Traditional Eastern European Culture 

This might sound a bit hard to imagine, but even the most beautiful, sophisticated, cosmopolitan Ukrainian girl believes her heart of hearts she is a simple village maiden.  Well, at least she likes to think she is.  Eastern Europe has numerous huge cities like Moscow, St. Petersburg, Odessa, and Kiev, but Russia, Poland, and especially Ukraine are still primarily a village cultures. 

The history is easy to understand.  Eastern Europe was politically, economically, and culturally backwards for a very long time.   It was dominated by foreign rulers from Genghis Khan to the Vikings.  These foreign rulers used relatively strong feudal retainers to actually enforce their will across the gigantic territory that makes up modern Russia and Ukraine.

When native rulers, like Ivan the Terrible, took over they continued to use the old feudal power structure to implement their decisions in much the same way as the Crimean Tartars and the Kings of Poland.  So, Russia and most of Eastern Europe was still largely a feudal society well into the nineteenth century with men and women still living much the same as their fathers and mothers for scores of generations before them in exactly the same village.  

There was a timelessness to village life across the region.  Travel was slow, physically exhausting and often dangerous.  Strangers were few and new ideas rare.  The village was a safe environment, not a vibrant one.  Most people who left the village, whether to immigrate to the new frontier of Siberia or serve as a solider in the czars’ armies, were never seen again.  With rare exceptions and perhaps a couple of trips in a lifetime to a nearby city most or the famers and laborers lived and died within twenty or thirty miles of where they were born.

The mass of villagers was ruled by a Westernized elite that gave a certain fairytale extravagance to their palaces and established a tradition of high style.  The ruling nobility and their leading assistants among the bourgeoise was usually out of touch with the needs of the common people and determined to maintain their ancient privileges regardless of the costs, and maintain them they did. 

For instance, France essentially abolished serfdom in 1318 at about the same time as it faded across most of Western Europe, but in Eastern Europe it remained the primary social and political framework for hundreds of years more.  The ruling nobles did not have the education or imagination to envision a new society. They were usually too out of touch with the serfs they ruled. 

Most Russian nobles lived in St. Petersburg or Moscow.  Many rarely visited the villages of their estates and they could not imagine that there needed to be any changes to rural life.  If a forward-thinking nobleman, like Tolstoy, did want to make changes they probably lacked the financial capital and administrative expertise to implement their ideas. 

The institution of serfdom continued in Russia until Czar Alexander I freed the serfs, more than 23,000,000 of them, in 1861 - over 500 years later, because the Crimean War convinced him that Russia had to eliminate serfdom to remain militarily competitive with the other European great powers. 

Freeing the serfs drastically shook up village life in Russia and Ukraine.   Many of the serfs were not happy to be freed, because they enjoyed the certain benefits as serfs and those benefits were eliminated.  The nobility was relieved from its obligations, but the government did not step in and provide the services that the nobles had been providing.  The nobles often grew incredibly rich, because most of the old economic restrictions were removed, but for the peasants across Russia and the rest of Eastern Europe the next fifty years tend to be one of economic desperation and cultural disruption.

The did not have the capital or infrastructure to compete successfully on the international agricultural market against imported grain from the United States and Canada.  So, many peasants left the countryside and moved into the cities, which were center of technological change and industrial development.  They got jobs in mines and factories, but they did not forget about the villages where they grew up.

With improved transportation, particularly railroads, peasants who moved to the city for better jobs were able to regularly travel back home to their village in a way impossible just a few years earlier.  And if they experienced a measure of success and rose to be foremen or managers or start their own small business often the first thing they did was to build a vacation or retirement home back in the village – a dacha.

Villages and the Disaster of the Twentieth Century

The twentieth century was an incredibly murderous and traumatic period for Eastern Europe – an almost unending series of disasters for the first fifty years of the century.   Almost any history of this period will barely mention the villages. 

These events were largely shaped by decisions of political leaders: Czar Nicholas II, Lenin, Stalin, Hitler, and Khrushchev who lived in cities. The campaigns of the towering military figures of the period from Hindenburg and Ludendorff to Zhukov and Rokossovsky depended on the economic and logistical support from cities and attacking or defending a city was normally the main goal of a campaign, but for the average Russian and Ukrainian family life or death often depended on village culture.   

The twentieth century started off poorly for Eastern Europe with Russian loss of face in war with Japan and it did not get any better.  The Russo-Japanese War was fought in Asia, but it led directly to the Revolution of 1905 in which was centered in European Russia.  Then there were the Balkan Wars with the small Balkan states finally throwing off the yoke of Ottoman oppression.  

The list of historical events is relentlessly bad.  From the start of the First World War in 1914 through the Russian Civil War, forced collectivization, Stalin's terror, and the Second World War there was over forty years of almost continual upheaval that ripped apart the existing social fabric, killing tens of millions of people, and leaving enormous psychological scars on the survivors.

And most of the people who came through these events did so because of their close ties to their ancestral villages. In 1914, 1915, and 1917 many Russians, Belarusians, and Ukrainians had to flee to the villages to escape advancing German armies.  Later thousands fled to the villages to escape rampaging Red and White armies during the Russian Civil War or advancing Polish forces.  And even people who never left their city apartment often depended on food from friends and relatives in the villages. 

Perhaps the events of the First World War and the Russian Civil War did more than anything to convince all Russians of the need for keeping in contact with village life as a backup plan for unimagined crisis and disasters. 

This period was an unmitigated disaster, particularly for men. Women also suffered during the wars and revolutions, but for many women the period also presented previously unimaginable educational opportunities, professional advancement, political influence, and personal accomplishment.

Soviet Women – The Mother of Mail Order Brides

The Soviet Union was, at least in theory, fully committed to equality of the sexes and women quickly began to move into many professions that previously had been off limits to them. Women became doctors, engineers, and scientist, and these changes were accelerated by the stupendous number of men that died during the wars, revolution, and purges, perhaps as many as thirty million during the Second World War.

In fact, because of the numbers of men killed by 1945 the Soviet Union had the most unbalanced sex ratio of any nation, a fact that persists in Russia today where there are approximately 86 men for every 100 women.

So, the Soviet Union's official policy of equality of the sexes dovetailed well with the demographic realities from the end of the Second World War through 1991.  Actually, it was a necessity and everyone realized that if the USSR had any hope of keeping up with the capitalist West led by the United States they were going to need women scientists, coal miners, and police officers.  So, legally women across the old Warsaw Pact were completely equal in the eyes of the law.

But life inside the Iron Curtain was no paradise for women. Everyone shared in the economic stagnation and collapse during the last twenty years of the Soviet Union, but the social status of women was high, certainly higher than in many Western countries, and their professional opportunities were essentially unlimited.

Then beginning in 1945 the USSR spent the next forty-six years slowly sinking into a cesspool of corruption and cynicism that eventually led to the economic and political collapse of the Soviet Union and most of its communist allies.

The fall of the Soviet Union threw everything into disarray. Everything communist was denounced. There was a push to embrace traditional peasant culture again and a sense of uncertainty about everything became the order of the day.

For Russian men, the economic collapse and breakdown of the existing social order was a catastrophe, but the most damage was done not from hunger, crime, or political corruption, but from vodka. Russia always had a tradition of heavy drinking, but during the time of the czars poverty helped control alcoholism and later the Soviet Union made repeated attempts to keep drinking under control.  And you do not have to talk to many Ukrainian or Russian girls to hear that the main thing they are hoping for in a Western man is one who drinks less than two liters of vodka a week.

Still, despite all of this adversity, Soviet women bequeathed an incredible gift to their daughters and granddaughters across Eastern Europe – guts.  Russian and Ukrainian women are almost in awe of their grandmothers and great-grandmothers’ heroics during World War II. 

They have heard stories about how their grandmother was a sniper or a nurse.  You should ask about these stories when you talk to Russian or Ukrainians.  These women have not forgotten that their female ancestors stood up and fought the one of the greatest evils to ever arise.  They are proud of their ancestors’ bravery.  It inspires them to be brave and push forward and that sense of bravery is important in international dating too. 

It takes courage to abandon your family and go live with some man you barely know in a country where no one speaks your language.  Sure, it is not exactly the same sort of bravery as tossing hand grenades at on rushing panzer grenadiers, but it takes courage to become a mail order bride. 

Respect them for their courage and intelligence.  In fact, the more beautiful an Eastern European lady is the less you should complement her on her looks.  Trust me, every Ukrainian model know she is beautiful.  They have heard it over and over and over a hundred times from the local guys.  

The way into the heart of a stunning Russian ballerina, and trust me, they are all stunning in person, is to talk about their beautiful brain, not that svelte, limber body.  This way you show them that you respect them and their culture. They now you are looking at their tight little butt, but you should not mention it until far after the first meeting.  

Even the most intelligent Eastern European women are happily surprised to have a man who really appreciates their intelligence, because apparently it is not something that the local guys often mention and a big part of your goal is to set yourself off as different from the local boys.

So, never talk down to a Russian girl.  That is a sure way to get rejected in a hurry, because it might be exactly the reason they are so sick of Russian men.  You do not want to come off as arrogant or pushy.  That seems to be the general approach of the men in Moscow.

And remember, Russia is a great country learn a little about Russian culture.  Russian models will wax poetic about St. Petersburg, brag about Moscow, and can real off statistics about the incredible size of their country.  And if you know a little Russian history and culture you will impress a Russia model even if you do not have a waterfront condo on Miami Beach. If by chance you do own a waterfront condo in Miami Beach showing them you know something about local culture will still help them overlook your beer belly and balding head.

Learn, some Ukrainian history.  Ukraine has a historic past that is very much in tune with the Western ideals of freedom, liberty, and independence.  That has not always done Ukrainians a lot of good, but it makes it easy for them to understand the traditional American values.  

Sometimes it is surprising, but most Ukrainian dancers seem to be experts on Ukrainian literature and immensely proud of Ukrainians’ role as the technological and industrial heart of the old Soviet Union. 

So, despite all of the problems in Ukraine and Russia today most Slavic brides love their family and are deeply attached to friends and neighbors.   So today, unlikely the 1990s, these women are not simply rushing to the lifeboats. 

Today Russian mail order brides are making a brave choice.   They are making choice based on an impartial examination of the facts to do whatever they can do to build a better life for themselves, their family, and, most importantly, their children.  That takes guts – real courage – and that is the often-overlooked inheritance that Russian and Ukrainian women received from the female snipers, doctors, pilots, coal miners, and steelworkers of the Soviet Union.   

Overlook that history at your own peril.  Today these women are not usually trying to scam anyone.  They really want to build a better life for themselves and their children.  So, if you come off as a fat, arrogant American they have no problem saying, “Nyet.”

Eastern European Women Today

So, the basic situation is that many of the social, economic, and educational gains women made during the Soviet-era have been lost.  In part, this is because Eastern European men have succeeded, at least on some level, of bringing back more of the culture of the Ukrainian and Russian villages.  This is the main cultural reason why even economically successful Eastern European women almost always look for a Western man. 

There has been a revival of Eastern European peasant culture.  There are things about this nearly every Slavic woman despise, but there are also elements of this culture that help make Russian girlfriends so amazing and why a Ukrainian wife can change a man’s life forever. 

Russian folk sayings such as, "A wife is not a pot; she will not break" and "If the thunder is not loud, the peasant will forget to cross himself" give an idea of the male dominated nature of traditional village life.  For a peasant, his only escape from the grinding poverty and hard labor was vodka and the only place his personal authority meant anything was inside of his own home, which he ruled with an iron fist. 

Russian men are the heaviest consumers of alcohol in the world. Russian men are estimated to drink the equivalent of more than 15 liters of pure alcohol in a year, but now researchers believe that is low because it does not include colognes, industrial solvents, or moonshine which are attractive for alcoholics because they are both cheaper and stronger.

These drinking habits are destructive to society and annoying to women, but  they are also deadly to men.  According to one recent study the rate of alcohol poisoning in Russia is 120 times, not 120%, but 120 times more common in Russia than in the European Union.

Alcohol also contributes to numerous accidental deaths and violence and, unsurprisingly, the life expectancy of men in the old Soviet Union plunged. In 2008 according to the CIA World Factbook the average life expectancy for a Russian man is only 59 years old compared to 73 for women and the numbers are about the same across the old Soviet Block.

Worse, for many women is that alcohol use also corresponds with an increased incidence of domestic violence and a dramatic rise in the numbers of single mothers.

Perhaps, even worse than all of these problems for the most beautiful, talented, and educated young women, has been the rise in a machismo culture that treats women first, last, and only as sex objects.  This is why Russian actresses enjoy meeting a man who can talk about anything but their sexy legs. 

Russian men have objectified women to a level that goes far beyond “locker room talk.”  Western PC culture is annoying, but even the most macho American or European guy seems like the star of Matthew McConaughey’s latest romantic comedy. 

In a recent study 100% of female Russian businesswomen had experienced sexual harassment. Thirty percent of women surveyed said that they had to have sex to keep their jobs, and yet when a young woman sued her boss in an effort to become only the third Russian woman to win a sexual harassment suit she lost, because the judge ruled that "If we had no sexual harassment we would have no children".

The anger that many women feel about this attitude is obvious from the statement on the many web sites where Russian women sign up seeking a Western husband. In the largest paper in Ukraine a woman clearly explains Why We Marry Foriegn Men.  This is a must-read article if you are still suspicious about the underlying motivations of these women. 

The Shifting Nature of Mail Order Bride Culture

So, the economic issues are important, but ultimately women in the old Soviet Bloc realize that they will probably be happier, safer, and more economically secure if they marry a decent guy from the West rather than looking for a guy in their own country.  Really, their thinking is irrefutably logical, you are almost certainly a great catch in Smolensk or Odessa.  

Most women you meet from the Black Sea to the Arctic Ocean are certain that foreigners make better boyfriends and much better husbands.  What is amazing is they have a lot of evidence for this opinion. 

Nearly every Russian or Ukrainian woman has friends, sisters, and cousins who have found happiness through the marriage to a foreign man.  The importance of these modern mail order bride pioneers cannot be underestimated. 

Every day millions of stunning women from Prague to Vladivostok open Facebook and see photos posted by girls just like them living in Boston, Sydney, and San Diego.  They see how well these women are living.  A lot of times they see houses, cars, and vacation homes that only the richest Russian or Ukrainian can dream about, but they also see baby pictures and hear women they know and trust tell them how nice, kind, and considerate their foreign husbands are. 

It is incredibly strong evidence for Russian mail order brides and it compels many of them to take the leap and begin searching for a Western man.  They see other Slavic women living better both materially and emotionally, because for most Eastern European women married to Western men becoming a mail order bride is the best thing to ever happen to them. 

That may sound crazy to you, but it is the truth.  What is crazy is that it is finally beginning to be accepted as the Truth About Mail Order Brides in the mainstream media in the West. 

In the 1990s feminist professors in the United States, Canada, and Europe attacked international dating with a passion almost impossible to grasp. They claimed the International dating industry was simply a modern-day version of white slavery prettied up for the internet.  They cited feminist theory to prove how evil it all was, but they did not actually meet any of the women who married men they met through international dating agencies.  They certainly did not talk to any of those despicable men!

Well, recently younger academics, mostly women too, have begun to interview the men and women who married during the first twenty-five years of the modern mail order bride movement.  What they have discovered is that for women it is almost always an incredibly positive event and that it is almost as good for the men.  But don’t trust me, trust a feminist professor who started out hating the concept of international dating

This is important, because many Eastern European women, particularly Ukrainians, are far less cynical about the entire process of searching for a foreign man than the women who were trying to escape the crime, chaos, and corruption in the years after the fall of the Soviet Union.  They know that marrying the right Western man can be their prince charming in an almost storybook manner. 

And, oddly, part of what drives this is that the reassertion of traditional peasant culture that has led to the loss of many hard earned privileges and even some legal protections has also led to many modern career women from Moscow and Kiev to dream about the other side of peasant life.  

There was another side to peasant life and in their heart of heart most Russian and Ukrainian girls believe they are just simple peasant girls. 

Even If She Wears Prada She Is a Simple Peasant Girl

The village was always important for the average Russian or Ukrainian girl even at the high point of the USSR, but it the years since 1991 it has gained a universally admired status that is probably higher than it has ever had before.  

For untold thousands of years the village was the center of the universe for nearly all Eastern European women.  Even after the importance village life peaked it was idealized in tradition and later in the earliest Russian and Ukrainian folk tales and literature.  

Many of these stories ignore or downplay the vodka, poverty, and macho elements of village life and focus on the honesty, supportive community, and loving families that existed in many villages.  These simple peasant virtues, which are very similar to the rural American ideal, have become sort of the fairy tale goal for Russian and Ukrainian women.

These women are not stupid.  They know they would not like all of the material discomforts of being actual peasants, but they want to find a man they can build a strong family with in a safe, supportive community where hard work, honesty, and support for others

If you can convince a girl from Kiev – no matter how beautiful, smart, or sophisticated she is – that you can deliver this peasant dream you have a shot at her even if you have a hard time getting a date back in Chicago.  She might be a Russian 10 and you might be an Illinois 3, but if she is convinced you are kind, generous, and compassionate you have a shot of winning her heart. 

No matter how cultured, educated, and hip a cosmopolitan a young Russian woman might appear she is probably only two or at most three generations away from the village where her grandmothers lived for hundreds if not thousands of years.  

And even if she grew up in Moscow or Kiev every summer she probably spent her summer at the family dacha.   This is where she picked up the idealized ideas about village life.

The dacha – a country house – often in or near the family’s village of origin is beloved across the region from Russia and Ukraine to the suburbs of Warsaw and Prague.  In the Western media the dacha’s that are covered are usually the dacha of political and business elites.  They are often luxurious homes, some actual palaces, and would be fit in perfectly in Aspen, Colorado or Lucerne, Switzerland. 

Most dacha are far more modest.  In the United States and Europe they would be described as cabins and many are little more than huts, but it is at the dacha in the long summer days in the northern latitudes across Eastern Europe where Russian and Ukrainian women learn the traditions of the villages that their families left perhaps as much as a century earlier.

Here young Russian and Ukrainian girls learn peasant virtues, usually at the right hand of their revered grandmother. They gather mushrooms, berries, and nuts.  They cook the ancient recipes beside their and are instructed in herbal remedies for insect bites, rashes, and the annoying summer cold.   Every summer for probably about six weeks from the time they were infants until most Slavic girls have been to sort of peasant girl boot camp. 

Dacha’s were big under the Soviets, but they have become nearly universal to all but the poorest Russians and Ukrainian, city dwellers, and that is why oddly there might be more “peasant girls” today than there have been in a hundred years.   And the positive, sanitized version of village life girls learn meshes very well with the idealized version of American life that they see on television shows and in the movies.  

To many of these beautiful young women today the United States, and Canada, Australia, and New Zealand too apparently offer the perfect version of village life.  In one of those countries they know that the ideal is a loving family in a supportive community in a beautiful outdoor setting. 

This is very close to the ideal village, but they also know that Western men are very different from the drunken, hyper macho version of Eastern European men.   They know that there are lots of legal protections for women, and, yes, there are the economic benefits too. 

Now, do you understand, “Why do so many women from Eastern Europe want to marry foreign men?”

It is pretty simple really.

Now, that you know the answer what are you going to do?