You are a Prince!
You might not be aware of it yet but you are already a prince in shining armour. The way that you act towards women may not seem like anything great. But to a women who is accustomed to men who either treat her as a servant or sex object it certainly is.
As a Western male we take for granted the fact that we should take our wife out on dates, buy her flowers, treat her nicely and hold her hand. But this is not the norm in many countries. The sad fact is that in many parts of the world the grinding reality of many men’s economic life mean that these small gestures are beyond them. The fact is that when you combine a dissatisfying work life with cultural attitudes towards woman that aren't exactly enlightened then you create an environment that is not conducive to romance.
Alcoholism is a major problem in many parts of the world in particular in countries like the Russia and Colombia. The men here often live as the saying goes “lives of quiet desperation.” Their only way of relieving this is through alcohol. Unfortunately spouse abuse goes hand in hand with these men’s drinking habits.
The traditional view of women in many of these countries is not much better than glorified housekeeper. And among young men the situation is sometimes even worse. These men have no interest in getting married and are only interested in sex.
With all these factors at play it is not surprising that many foreign women are looking for a western male to treat them nicely and to be a supportive husband. The kind of life that you can offer in the west is a like a fairy tale to many of these women.
Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder
The differences in the way beauty is viewed in the West and the East has opened up a whole new world of opportunity for the Western male. When you tell your petite, lightly tanned girlfriend that she is beautiful, she might strongly disagree. And the fact is in her eyes she is not beautiful.
If we look at countries like China we can see why there is a pool of beautiful (by western standards) women who feel that they are unattractive. For example the Chinese conception of beauty is towards paler skin. There are also many minority groups in China that are unfairly discriminated against. If a women has what we consider nicely tanned skin then she may be considered quite ugly in China and thus not able to secure a successful male.
There are also other discriminating factors at work in China. If a women is over thirty or not a virgin she may not be considered suitable for marriage. If the women is divorced or if she has a child she will face an even harder challenge finding a suitable husband. And China is not the only country that discriminates against unmarried women, especially if they have a child.
Men in China also place a far greater emphasis on the family background of the women they are dating. If she is from a poor rural family she may not be considered a suitable partner. In a study conducted of Chinese men’s preferences for woman. Family background and education was ranked 4th and 5th as the most important criteria. This was only behind beauty, health and the women’s character.
One aspect you need to be aware of is the way that western culture influences that way that you behave. Unfortunately while it is nice that we have grown to be more supportive of women and taken a greater share of the household chores the fact is that many men have become feminised to some degree.
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