For some strange reason Mexico rarely features on the travel schedule of guys looking to date internationally. This is despite the fact that we can give you six really good reasons why dating Mexican women makes so much sense:
- Eva Longoria
- Sofia Vergara
- Salma Hayek
- Priscila Perales
- Maite Perroni
- Ninel Conde
Although western guys know for an absolute fact that Mexican women are some of the most beautiful in the world, they rarely pay the country more than a passing thought when thinking about their next dating adventure.
The good news is that this is their loss and your gain.
So, what do you need to know to attract Mexican women to you like bees to man-honey? Well, the first thing you need to do if you want to attract a Mexican women is to…
Understand The Enemy!
Does that sound harsh?
We don’t mean it to be, but the only way to overcome an opponent is to truly understand them. And let’s face facts, you need to be prepared to fight at least a little to find the woman of your dreams.
If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles.Sun Tzu
What Makes a Mexican Woman Tick?
What it comes down to is this: You have to spend time understanding Latinas and their culture to have any hope of having success on the dating scene.
Don’t get me wrong – Mexican girls are more than worth the effort, but you have to choose your battles wisely. So the first step in winning a Mexican girl’s heart is understanding what makes her tick.
So let’s take a look inside the mind of the Single Mexican Women:
1. Super Superstitious
Mexican women have a ritual or superstitious about literally everything in their life. And these aren’t just passing superstitions like you’d find in North America – not walking under a ladder, for example – these are rituals woven into the very fabric of their lives.
And by fabric we mean the color of their underwear. Yes, Mexican women will do things like wear red underwear during an eclipse, or yellow underwear when they want to have good luck. This is completely normal and rational from their point of view.
2. Family Relationships
Women in Mexico are all about family, and especially their mothers. But they love and hate their mother with equal measure, depending on the day of the week. Basically, the more loving the mother and daughter are, the more they’ll fight.
What you can take from this is that Mexican women can love you and hate you almost at the same time.
3. Health Conscious
Yes, they like staying in shape, but their healthcare goes beyond that. In fact, it goes so far beyond it that they have a potion, tea or ritual to cure you of anything you can think of.
Do not make fun of their rituals, their teas, or any of their alternative medicine. They take it very seriously.
Most Latinas don’t need makeup, because…well…they have great genes. But they can take it to extremes too, so far in some situations that it’s almost comical – comical in that they wear too much.
What they all have in common with applying makeup though is that they can do it anywhere, and not make a mess of it?
Sitting on a bus on the way to work? Makeup applied to perfection.
In a dark lift plummeting towards the ground? Makeup applied to perfection.
Your lesson in this is a simple one: Appearances matter, especially her own.
You’ve all heard the stories about fiery Latinas who want to smack you upside the head one second, and then five minutes later kiss you with so much passion you’d have forgiven them for removing one of your toes with an axe.
This level of passion can be overpowering for North American or European guys who are used to begging for attention from their women. But once you get used to it you’ll find it’s addictive. That you literally don’t want to live without it.
6. Avoid Politics
Don’t talk about political or unpleasant stuff like cartels, kidnaps, murders, or illegal immigrants. There’s enough of that crap in the news already, so it doesn’t make for good dating conversation.
If asked for your opinion on any of the above do your best Neo-in-The-Matrix-dodging-bullets routine. But if you’re cornered into answering stay as neutral as possible.
She’s very proud of her country and her heritage, so she hates to hear her country getting a bad rap on the international stage.
Single Mexican women love to party, and if given the choice between paying the rent and having a good time, well… they’ll have a good time. Their idea of having fun is more about going out with friends, having some drinks, and dancing the night away.
Not the North American or European female version of “partying”, which means drink as much as two regular men, and then spend your evening getting sick into your own hair.
8. Regional Differences
Your experience of dating Mexican girls can and will vary from one city to the next. Stick to the bigger cities in the north if you want women who are a bit more uninhibited and willing to date gringos. Women from smaller towns and village are way more conservative and traditional, so you have to work a bit harder to win their heart.
9. Avoid Gringo Hunters
How can you spot a gringo hunter? They speak fluent English, don’t care how you dress, look or talk, and have probably traveled overseas. She’ll empty your wallet faster than a politician breaking an election promise.
10. Don’t Be An Emo
Women here are generally cheerful and love life. So if you’re a moody, deep hipster you can drop that routine because Mexican women will think you’re boring or weird…or both.
Basically if you spend your entire life complaining about things or finding things to complain about, women here will avoid you like an STD.
Taking Things To The Next Level – Meet, Date, Marry
Now that you better understand what makes these women tick, it’s time to lift the hood and look underneath to see how you get the engine purring. Here are 8 tips for attracting single Mexican women – ignore them at your peril!
11. Dress To Impress
This should go without saying, but don’t dress like a tourist.
What does a tourist dress like? An arrogant bum with no sense of style e.g. white socks with sandals, headache-inducing shirts, and a sombrero because they think it looks cute.
To be fair, Mexican guys usually dress like arrogant bums too, so this gives you the perfect opportunity to polish your rough edges and show these Latinas how you can shine.
You don’t need to go nuts – a crisp shirt, pressed pants, and good dress shoes should be topped off with a shower, shave, and some great cologne.
12. They Dig Gringos But…
Yes, they’re happy to date European or North American guys, but don’t think that’s enough to have them tripping over themselves to hook up with you.
That’s never going to be the case.
They know you’re a foreign guy, but they still expect you to treat them well, so leave the ‘tude at home. They get enough of that from the local guys.
Even trying to play the “I’m a cool foreign guy” routine is enough to land you in serious trouble with women here.
13. Mexican Women Don’t Like Cheapskates
We mentioned earlier that girls here like to party, and we meant it. You don’t need to match them drink for drink, but be prepared to buy your girl (and her friends) a few drinks on a night out at the bar or club.
They’re not looking for a sugar daddy, which they’ll prove by splitting the bill with you. But if they think you’re the kind of guy who prefers to go for “romantic walks” because it’s cheaper… she’ll sideline you pretty quick.
Women here are fiercely independent, so again, she’s not looking for a sugar daddy. They just lack financial restraint in a way you might find annoying at first.
Get over it. She’s more than worth it.
14. Be A Confident Man
A worrying number of guys get confidence and arrogance mixed up, which could cause them problems in Mexico.
You see, women here love guys who are confident and take the lead in the relationship. But they absolutely despise guys who are arrogant to the point of being machista. Or what they call a “chauvinist pig”.
Sexual harassment here is pretty much at epidemic levels, so just grabbing some random girl’s ass isn’t going to win you any fans, nor is lunging in for a game of tonsil hockey with an unwilling opponent.
So you need to walk the fine line between being a 100% alpha male and a soy boy. Be a man, and a gentleman at that. If you break down crying all the time because of the plight of the rainforest…. she’s going to think you’re weird.
Save your “sensitive side” for the female social justice warriors back home – the ones who hang out with you but won’t ever sleep with you.
15. Boundaries Are Sexy
You know how you can’t tell a North American girl what you will and won’t put up with in your relationship? Like that she can’t stay out drinking with random guys until 4am without at least calling you?
Yeah, if you don’t do that with your Mexican girlfriend she’ll assume you don’t care what she does.
Not only that but she’ll probably lose respect for you.
Because she expects you to be a man, and to have some ground rules for the relationship. But if you don’t she’ll know she can walk all over you.
16. Speako The Lingo, Gringo
Learning Spanish is relatively easy, and not only is it the polite thing to do, but it will also help you when it comes to dating.
Yes, most women will speak at least some English, but you’ll score brownie points for learning to speak Spanish. Don’t worry if you’re not fluent – just speak slowly and maintain eye contact.
You can make a big impact with a few well-placed words and a lingering look. As long as you’re not saying something like “Dónde está el baño?”, because that’s not sexy in any language.
So what should you say to a Mexican girl? Well you could start off with “Me gusta” after the first few dates. Then “Te adoro” once you really get to know her, but save “Estoy enamorado” until you really mean it.
Don’t do that dumb tourist thing of speaking louder in pigeon Spanish. She’s not deaf – she’s just having trouble understanding your accent and pronunciation.
17. How To Tell If A Mexican Woman Likes You
This can be tough because women here are so nice they have issues telling guys “Nope. Not into you. Not ever”.
So, if you’ve been on a date with a girl (and you’ve discussed meeting again), give her space to contact you. If you don’t hear from her within a week then scratch her off your list.
But shouldn’t you wait if you think she’s really worth it?
Nope. She’s a player and probably dating 3 or 4 other guys at the same time as you.
The biggest hurdle you’ll face here – with legit girls – is that they’ll never openly admit to liking you. Even if you’re pretty sure they do. Watch for cues and body language signals, but don’t expect her to make the first move. She wants to be seduced by you, but only when the time is right.
18. Learn How To Dance
A key part of Mexican dating culture is dancing. Women here love it, plus it’s also pretty much the best ice-breaker for getting to know her a little better.
This is especially true because girls here tend to go out in groups, so trying to get her alone can be difficult… Unless you ask her to dance.
Because it would be rude of her to refuse, and she’ll also appreciate that you sacked up and asked her to hit the floor.
You’re not the world’s best dancer? Don’t sweat it – just follow her lead, smile and make a lot of eye contact. Or just book some dancing lessons. Even a handful of lessons can help you find your rhythm, or at least to remedy those two left feet of yours.
We know that people have short attention spans, so we thought you might want the TL:DR version of how to attract Mexican women:
- Dress to impress
- Don’t be a cheapskate
- Learn at least some Spanish
- Treat her like somebody you love
- Learn how to dance
If you follow those six steps you’ll be leagues ahead of 90% of the other guys on the dating scene in Mexico – regardless of what city you’re in – and that includes the local guys.
San Francisco native and former T.V. producer. Toby has traveled to over 50 countries. He’s now happily married to a beautiful Thai woman.