Divorce and the Mail Order Bride

One of the biggest myths about mail order brides is that the marriages that result don't last.  It's easy to find smart aleck posts on Yahoo Answers about "Green Card Brides" and "Sexy Mail Order Vixens," but those posts are just uniformed electronic drivel.

In fact, despite all of the propaganda to the contrary, the best official estimates in the United States and the European Union show that marriages that start on international dating sites are much more SUCCESSFUL than other marriages.

Dr. Robert J. Scholes, in an official report to the United States Congress, noted..

marriages arranged through these services would appear to have a lower divorce rate than the nation as a whole, fully 80 percent of these marriages having lasted over the years for which reports are available.

Scholes was heavily influenced by the anti-mail order bride academics who have deep theoretical opposition to the practice and his report has a lot of analytical problems, but he couldn't deny the facts about the divorce rate.  The quotation above is in the Appendix A to the main report if you want to check it out for yourself.

Check out page seven of the Swiss study if you want to read the specifics.

So, depending on what figures you use the divorce rate for the United States is somewhere between 48-54% and the overall rate in the European Union is only slightly lower.

However, to the horror of many feminist academics, the divorce rate among marriages that start through international marriage agencies is reported to be much lower.  One study from Switzerland reported that marriages between Swiss men and foreign women were approximately 10% less likely to end in divorce than marriages between Swiss men and women.

Why? Why does the best evidence suggest that international marriages have such a high success rate. That is the a question, and one that really has not been adequately researched.

One reason might be that in an international marriage that starts through a mail order bride agency that there is a real expectation from both the bride and groom that they are going to have to work to make the relationship work.  Another reason might be that both parties in the marriage have often been told by friends and family that it won't work and so they work doubly hard to make the marriage last.

Or perhaps, part of the reason for success is because, generally, the men in these relationships are a little older and wiser than in most marriages.

Regardless of the reason, the best evidence shows that international marriages work! What you decide to do with that evidence is solely up to you.

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